Vintage: Navigating Dangerous Waters

Over the last several months we’ve been discussing how to go about things to get the best results.  However, what about when things go wrong?

Especially in the matters of dealing with other women and/or obstacles that stand in our way.  What does an alpha female do?  Does she succumb to pleasing her friends and everyone else?  Is she discouraged by other more “attractive” women?  Does she fall prey to the stats about unmarried women? 

Here’s one:  What if she is the “other woman” in a relationship?  Yes, that can happen too.   But let’s look at when an alpha female is dealing with “other women” and her mode of operandi.

The “other” women are usually those who get in the way of progress, your progress.  It can be anyone from a boyfriend’s nagging ex or a jealous friend.

In many cases, your closest friend can be the enemy by thwarting your efforts with doubt and negativity. They’ll tell you that you’re too obsessed with getting a man, but secretly admire your way of thinking.   As you get older, you’ll find more of your girlfriends moving on to marriage and babies.  Some you never hear from again.  They realized their dream.

If yours is to be partnered too, it’s time you realized your dream.  An alpha female always remains aloof, mysterious, and devoid of any emotional recklessness that would bring on unwanted attention and drama.  But it isn’t always easy.  However, the goal is to always remain a leader among other women, and not be of them.

Nobody wants to willingly put themselves in dangerous situations that may hurt themselves or others.  It seems to find an alpha female anyway.  Unfortunately, many women succumb to pedestrian standards for dealing with life’s issues. 

But there’s another way.  It’s not about whether it’s the “right” thing to do, it’s about the “winning” thing to do. 

No woman wakes up in the morning and says, “Today, I will steal a husband.”  No woman dreams of getting pregnant without a supportive partner in her life.  There are times when we find ourselves in pickles we never imagined.  We can’t talk to friends and family for fear of being judged.  Even the magazines judge us by our mistakes.  But if we do find ourselves in any of these situations, there is a way to navigate. 

Below are just some situations:

Unexpected Pregnancy

It seems like these days the baby comes before the marriage, and unfortunately, sometimes before the love. 

But an alpha female always plans ahead.  She should never find herself in a compromising situation in which all her power is handed over to a man who hasn’t even made the move to marry her.  If you do find yourself here, it’s not the end of the world if you set a tone early on in your relationship that you expect to be married or negotiate a marry-free relationship.

Expect to be married, don’t hope to be.  It should be such that you feel secure 110% that if you were pregnant he’ll pull out the calendar that night for wedding dates.   You should have no qualms about doing so, too. 

It doesn’t have to be a verbal demand, but evident in the way you carry yourself.  Condoms, always.  The pill, a must. 

In the chances that you find yourself pregnant, it’s very likely the chap will just marry you.  In the best cases, because he loves you, in the worst cases because he has to.  Either way, you got what you bargained for, but don’t wait till you run out of cards.

Another Woman’s Man

This is tricky, and so not the thing to do among the consensus of women, but that has never stopped an alpha female. 

If he is not married, he is technically single and fair game.  But he must initiate his interest in you.  Under no circumstances would an alpha female jockey for a disinterested man’s attention. 

He’s not going to leave his girlfriend because he found something better, but simply because he can.  He wasn’t married.  He was free to move on. 

There’s no guilt an alpha female has to carry, here. It’s all fair game, especially if no children are involved.  Leave the sex for after he leaves the girlfriend.  It gives you more control. 

Never settle for being a “jump off”—the one he jumps off of once sex is over to go back home.   But you do need to be concerned about the girlfriend. An unmarried girlfriend can be shrewd.  She is desperate to get married, and she will stop at nothing. 

Your job is to always rise above the fray.  An alpha female never succumbs to emotional wrecklessness thrown at her by other women.  For these women know not what they do.

Crushing the Competition (at his place)

This is very controversial, as many would call it ‘desperate’. 

It’s just ole school.  An alpha female never uses the word “desperate” anyway.  It’s a word created by women to control other women and make them self conscious.  Live your life. 

What one calls desperate, an alpha female calls ambitious.  By any means necessary has won a lot of wars.  When it comes to men, plan your moves no matter what they are. 

If you find yourself with a man with lots of admirers, and still manages to treat you good, it’s time to make your territory.  Don’t worry about his reaction.  The truth is, women like men other women like.  It’s the reaction of the other women that you care about.  It’s an age old tactic, but this works like a charm:

Scent your panties with perfume and leave them under the pillow.  You can use this with any piece of lingerie.  You don’t want him to find this the same night, but run into it maybe a few weeks or months later.  Of course, you don’t know anything about it.  He’ll seem shocked.  You should, too.  When you do this, carry the extra item on you or just leave a worn, but nicely scented pair behind. 

Lipstick cases should be left in the living room.  Its marks should be around a glass that you leave in an obscure place like behind the TV or in a closed cabinet. 

Trust me, the next woman will find it.  He may not.  She’ll accuse him of cheating and hiding it.  You may also use remnants of contraceptives like a condom or lubricant left under his bed sheet or under the sofa pillow. 

Remember you want this man for yourself.  Think of it like hunting.  You need to put some bait down to get him and to keep others way.

Though this may make some, including you, uncomfortable, challenge yourself to think differently and boldly.  Life does.

Originally posted 2020-02-18 07:40:18.