The Alpha Coquette, The Alpha Siren, The Alpha Fantasy
You can seduce a man without taking anything off, without even touching him.
—actress Rae Dawn Chong
You have to get him hooked, so hooked, that it hurts when he tries to take it out. Once you do that, you can figure out how you feel later. We talk about “inner” work all the time, but you need action, too. There are 3 types of alphanistas you need to know to hook any of these men: civilians, trophies and ballers.
The “Alpha” Siren—She’s a blazing hot woman who is self assured and wants a relationship with a man who can handle that. She is a predator and men are her prey. Very self aware of the power she has over men, she dominates them psychologically and sexually. Men give her money, attention, gifts for a chance to be close to her. In bed, she puts them under a spell with her mean blow-job skills and her expert riding stance. She is not so concerned about how she acts, as much as she is about how she looks. Her look is consistent and she has a signature perfume, a signature lipstick, and signature color. A siren is a woman who can ring the alarm in any man and get him on the express train to the altar.
Alpha Sirens: Angelina Jolie, Sharon Stone (Fatal Attraction)
How To Be An Alpha Siren:
–Get a list of “marked” men, famous or not famous. It doesn’t matter. It could be a crush in your Office
–Be bold, ask for what you want, be direct with requests, do not be shy
–Choose bold, bright colors for clothes, makeup, nails
–Practice oral sex and riding there are many videos that show you how, this is a main point of domination for the siren, and is her most wicked tool, next to her smarts
–Talk about marriage often, add his name to Tiffany’s, etc mailing lists for jewelry catalogs, he’ll think it’s a “sign”
–Learn to be sexy, talk sexy, walk sexy, because a siren drips with sex appeal
The “Alpha” Fantasy—This is a woman who controls the relationship through her silence. She completely understands men’s strength and weaknesses. She plays the role of the submissive woman for her man and is completely empowered in that. She listens to him, she barely questions him, and she does what he asks of her. She usually attracts dominant men, but can’t be easily taken advantage of. But playing this role has offered her an upper hand in controlling her man through silence and resignation. She simply receives and he gives, until she has redefined him intimately and emotionally. She is a slut and a pet if he wants her to be and as beautiful as a gem if he sees her that way. They are closer than any relationship either has ever experienced with an unprecedented level of trust couples rarely have these days. This deepens their bond and builds magnifying intensity in a relationship quickly.
Alpha Fantasies: Beyonce, Marilyn Monroe
How To be An Alpha Fantasy:
–Choose a man who can handle “submission” many men cannot, and should not be “forced” to
–Be submissive, learn to let things go
–Talk less, listen more, get in his head, you should be able to know his moves before he does
–Surrender yourself emotionally to him, trust him completely
–A man experienced with submissive women will value your submission and protect it
–Be open to his sexual needs, but do not be an aggressor like the siren
Side note: You may be asking: How can a submissive woman be an alpha? She can be an alpha because she made a choice to be submissive. It is what she likes. It what who she is. She stands confident in her decision, and defines it, she does not let it or others define it for her.
The “Alpha” Coquette--This is a blend of hot/cold and dom/sub. She is a complicated woman, unpredictable, and can drive a man insane with her ambiguity. When she’s hot, she’s smoking, and when she’s cold, she’s on ice. There are few grey areas with her. Men know where they stand with her, and sometimes they don’t. She uses this control to keep them engaged. They constantly try to track her down and when they do they feel the time is special, but limited. In a moment, she can be an angel, then flip the script to his dismay. She creates a little drama with her man and lights his jealous sensibilities. She strongly believes that men want women other men want. She plays this to her advantage. Disappears for a few days. Doesn’t return his calls. She tells him she wants to surrender to him. Makes him believe he can control her. But never lets him. He’ll be crazy for her and want to conquer her. That’s when she catches him, preferably with a 5 carat net.
Alpha Coquettes: Mexican artist Frida Kahlo, Zsa Zsa Gabor, Pamela Anderson
How To Be An Alpha Coquette:
–Maintain your mystery, alpha coquettes never answer questions directly
–Find a hobby or interest you are passionate about, be an “expert” in something to deepen the intrigue
–Start arguments for no reason, but don’t get carried away
–Rev up passion and missed days, then re-appear again detached, disinterested
–Do not have sex when he wants to, use sex sparingly, but flirt alot, flirting is what coquettes do well
–Control the way things happen and when they do, a coquette wants her man at the end of the day, always keep your eyes on making the relationship happy and peaceful, be the quiet after the storm
Why many women find themselves single has to do with not having a goal, and a strategy. Just like with our health, money, and spirituality, we need to outline what we want to accomplish in our relationships by how and when. Relationships don’t just “happen”. They are developed. They are honed. Since you cannot control a man, you can control your own behavior and how you are perceived.
I like to define myself as the Alpha Coquette. This technique works if it’s mastered. It protects your feelings, and respects yours and his boundaries. Never does a coquette want to hurt a man, disrespect a man, or mislead a man. Her main thing is her ability to maintain her own identity. Whereas the fantasy, defines it in a relationship, and the siren, defines it with sex. This is not saying that the Coquette is superior. The Fantasy, is actually the most confident and strongest, whereas the Coquette is more cautious. The Siren is the smartest and brightest. She uses her sexuality as a mask for her brilliance. She can go toe to toe with any suitor and conquer him, but it will always be through her sex that she wins him.
You see, they all interplay. As you approach the end of the year, work on developing yourself into a woman other women admire, and men desire. Your job is to choose and borrow from the alpha-type that makes the best use of who you are everyday. You don’t have to change, but enhance. Take your power back in the relationship. Never give that away. This is not about being right or wrong, just winning.
FURTHER READING
(Note: This is an ebook, and I read this man’s program, and it is very alpha in its strategies. I was sucked in. I highly recommend.)
Weekly Task: Which one are you or want to be? Choose one, and write in your journal how that is working for you. Are you a Siren that needs to be a Fantasy? Or vice versa? Be honest! You may be operating on auto pilot, and expecting different results. Which category appeals to you most? Then, report to the forums!