You Can Have Whatever (Man) You Like…

An Alpha Female Dressed To Meet Her Match

(Alphanista welcomes guest bloggers who fit our perspective)

By Guest Blogger Te-Erika Patterson

While watching a television biography about the union of Arnold Schwarzenegger and Maria Shriver, I was amazed to learn that the entire time Schwarzenegger was single he envisioned marrying someone from a political family, well connected or perhaps even royalty. He saw himself as an influential public figure with an amazingly successful woman by his side. Unknown to us and maybe even unknown to him, as he toiled away as a construction worker, he was pining after a vision for his life that he would one day enjoy.

How many Alpha women in the world have fantasized about meeting a wickedly successful and brilliant man only to share their fantasy with a friend who scoffs at them? You know what you want and it’s not a man you’ll meet on every street corner or at the club on First Fridays.

My greatest romantic fantasy involves a man who will partner with me to help many others achieve success. He has a diverse investment portfolio and is a man of integrity. His creativity blows minds, his communication skills are unmatched and his heart is like gold. He is just like me in so many ways, yet he complements my gifts and talents with talents that are unique to him. He is not a ‘company man.’ If he even chooses to work for a company, he is the boss. He is a public figure and we work together to use our influence to uplift and empower millions.

My friends often smile at me when I’m pouring my heart out about my desires. They pat my leg and shake their heads wondering if I’ll remain single for the rest of my life while still holding on to this dream. Sometimes I wonder too, but that still doesn’t deter me from believing in this awesome business/intimate partner.

I truly believe that the type of man you desire is a direct reflection of the lifestyle you will live. You see yourself smiling proudly as he accepts his awards and you giggle at the thought of him removing the zipper of your ballroom gown with his teeth after a glamorous evening at one of your philanthropic events.

Prepare for that union by becoming as successful as you can. Become the best woman you can be according to your own imagination and enjoy your single life as you build yourself into someone you and your family will be proud of. You want to be an asset to his life just as much as he will be to yours. Ignore everyone who says you want too much, or men like that don’t date women who come from the neighborhood you were raised in.

Your unquenchable desire is like a shining light beckoning you to prepare for your future. Stand tall, become the woman you see standing beside the man you desire. You ARE worthy and you will have it, if you do not break down and decide that you aren’t worthy of what your heart is telling you that you deserve.

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  1. Coco says:

    I just found this blog and am in LOVE. This is what I have told countless single friends of mine, if you want to attract a mate with his act together, you need to get yours together as well. Birds of a feather you know. It always amazes me when woman say they want a successful man, but act as though those men shouldn’t want those same traits in a woman.

  2. Nikki says:

    I had just entered the Aerospace industry and he was a struggling small business owner but when we found each other we were great. If I hadn’t have put myself in the position to grow we’d never have met. We gave one another so much, learned so much and when it ended walked away with so much. We should grow for ourselves and take that into our relationships so we can grow also once we are in them. I loved this article.

  3. Cayenne says:

    @ Cipher:
    So true. It can be one sided. There’s a huge difference between a partner and a dependent living in la la land. Some ladies are very caught up in riding a mans coat tails instead of actually walking beside him with her own thing going on

  4. Sandy says:

    reference correction on my initial post…
    In total agreement with Sherray and Mike. idealism and overconfidence create a distorted sense of self….reality is we are limited to our options, some women are clueless about what their options really are.

  5. DawleyPardon says:

    I looooove this post. Lately, guys who want to date me tell me I will never find the kind of man that really want when they realize they do not fit my criteria. I think it is totally possible to be the best you you can be and attract the same type of people into your life–who strives for the bets in every single area.

  6. Sherryberry says:

    I love this post! I believe in the law of attraction and that like attracts like ( which is basically what this post is saying). Also, becoming the person you want to see by your man’s side (wow, that’s powerful). Again, that is why I’m working so hard becoming my best self- I want that man to compliment me and that I can support. Thanks for the insight and words of encouragement.

  7. Cipher says:

    I just wonder when I hear women talk about getting a “rich” man because to have many investments and attend philanthropic events, he’s not working your average 9-5. The author even says he’s the boss or runs his own business, so…don’t you want a rich man? Also, what’s wrong with finding a man who loves, gets and respects you with all his heart and working TOGETHER to get investments of your own. You invest, he invests. Everyone pools profits together. I guess, it sounds like freeloading/gold-digging.

  8. Gladys says:

    Oh finally someone who understands what I am talking about. I am single and most of my friends think I am in la la land when it comes to relationships. I want a man that I am going to be able to respect in the long run. He needs to understand that I will be his woman, but I have dreams and ambitions and I want him to have dreams and ambitions too. Oh yeah, the man I am waiting for is a from a whole new mold of men.

  9. Cruz says:

    This post is it! I don’t let anyone tell me I’m silly or a dreamer for wanting what I want, no matter what it is. The mind is so very powerful and I truly believe what you think is exactly what you’ll get so start thinking gloriously and then take action!

  10. Sherray says:

    I have a problem when people rely on law of attracttion like its some magic bullet. You gotta do the work too.

  11. Brian says:

    Finding “your” man is all about attitude. Having a positive mental attitude (PMA) will bring you what you desire. You still have to do the work – work on yourself that is, but the first thing a man looks for is a woman that knows her self-worth. And we prey on those with low self-worth and worship those with high. Which are you?

  12. Maryann says:

    This is the kind of perspective this blog stands for, and I plan to share how powerful desire is, I have seen how it works in my own life. Thank you for your contribution to the blog!

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