Women with cigars are looking for a certain experience. Some choose shopping, others smoke for relaxation. Every woman has a story as to how she learned, and each story is interesting because it’s not necessarily very “ladylike”.
You can find them at cigar bars or some other dark remote corner of a lounge with it dangling from their fingers. It’s a certain look she gives off that’s supposed to convince you she knows what she is doing, and many do. However, there are some who are just posing. They don’t respect the history of the cigar or the etiquette. They learned it from a man and he left before he could finish the lesson. Here is a dos and donts list to make you aware. Cigar ladies, feel free to add:
Take your time in smoking it; a puff a minute is good enough. Nothing worse than seeing someone sucking on it like a respirator pump.
Let the cigar die a dignified death. After it’s smoked half way, it will go out by itself. No need to panic that it’s almost done. Relax. Breathe.
Hold the cigar between your index finger and thumb. Please adhere to this because you can tell an amateur by her holding it like a cigarette. Boo.
Ask someone else for a light (the lighting of a cigar should be a personal affair). I know this may seem “sexy” to ask the cute guy to help out, but if you can’t light it, learn. That is one of the pleasures of the experience.
Put the cigar out by crushing it in an ashtray. See rule above.
Wear your prettiest, most expensive number when you’re smoking. It will smell for days without a good cleaning. Be practical.
When you do find the perfect cigar, go to a lounge, and stay out of cars and closed in spaces because the cigar smell just hangs and sticks. A cigar is my way of relaxing after dinner with a glass of port or a grand marnier sidecar.