Weekend Rewind: Why I Date White And I’m Alrrright….
November 20, 2009
Rapper Eve is known for dating "white" and was rumored to be engaged to a white man
If I had a penny for all the reads, this one still gets. Classic. Enjoy! (Nikki pls get in touch me for an update 
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By Guest Blogger, Nikki Harris (soon to be Nikki Harris-Abramson in 6 months)
Love, love, love my black men. But I want to get married.
If Eve, Halle, Alfre Woodard, and others can do it what makes me so special?
I did not have the time to wait around for them to approach me or ask for my number. I started to be interested in white men when I saw how differently they interacted with their women. I immediately stopped going to black events to see how they really do it. Last summer, with some friends at work we went to some white after work lounges and some networking events.
I noticed the men are way more social than black men. They walk up to women, give them compliments, buy them drinks and are more confident. It is a myth that black men are these confident, cool men. The ones I met are afraid and fearful. But so are black women. How can two scared people love each other? Below are my reasons why I date white, and it’s allllright….
1. White boys take you home to meet their mamas sooner
2. White boys are already planning second date on first date
3. White boys know traditional home and family life and value that
4. White boys like to spend money to make up for any “shortages”
5. White boys are hella freakish in bed they started the whole “you know what” then black guys started doing “you know what” in the 90s
6. White boys enjoy going out and experiencing new cultures and events without feeling “uncomfortable”
7. White boys got good credit (mine bought me a MAC gold laptop without droppin a dime at the store)
8. White boys got good credit! (a better quality of life is guaranteed)
9. White boys usually have a home or fly ass apartment with the payments on-time and an awesome wine selection
10. White boys are tired of white women
Contrary to popular belief: NO I AM NOT LOOKING AT MY WHITE BOY AND WISHING HE WAS BLACK. NO, I DO NOT MISS BLACK MEN. I am happy and loved and cherished. I really don’t even see a color in my white boy anymore.
Yes, I do call him my “white boy’ and he loves it. Many black women are jealous of those of us who step out. We are not with a store clerk, but prominent, paid white collar white men who are proud to showcase us. I still dated black when I met my white boy, but I’m too busy, now. Got engaged on New Years Eve 4.5 carats. We are having a Jewish wedding, and then moving into his lovely home in Hartsdale, NY. Don’t knock it, till you “white” it.
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Black guys problably aint that into you. If brothers like what they see, they holla.If you workin with somethin (top-n-bottom) finding a (black) husband aint that hard.
Ewww, I don’t know about his one. I was once married to a white guy and it was the worst relationship I’ve ever had. Contrary to popular belief, white men are NOT the saviors of the world, or better lovers or partners. Their socioeconomic situation are usually a little different than the brothas, but that doesn’t make them better human beings.
Although Im a advocate of interracial relationships and dating who you want, I don’t agree with blaming others for your relationship failures, or making wide generalizations about a group of men.
Do you, Nikki. Damn 4.5 carats? Are we overcompensating for anything? LOL
You can’t be close minded these days when it comes to dating. As a man, I like all flavors and dipped and dabbed but finally realized that the Black Woman is where I needed to keep my Black a$$.
Plus my folks telling me – if she can’t use your comb, don’t bring her home – didn’t affect me at all (yeah, right)
I will say – you make a lot of generalizations in your statements. Maybe the bruthas you were dating were just wack (3,4,5,7). Expand your horizon and attend upper-crust black events and you wouldn’t have to learn a new language in 6 months.
Mazal tov!
Umm…. Well my moto is get it how you live and do you. Love comes in all colors, shapes and sizes.
seems quite trendy….
i wouldn’t do it and then BRAG about it, degrading Black men in the process…but you go right ahead.
This is exactly what I expect. Black women defending black men. I did not put down black men but I spoke my truth and sorry if your marriages or relationships with white men didn’t work! Mine did! I don’t have to learn another language, he speaks English. And to mike, honey my ass is fat I got black men till this day checking me out, I am just underwhelmed with what they have to offer. When I look at my man and I look at black man at his level, it ain’t the same. Black men always act like they are God’s gift, I want to be god’s gift for a change!
Ya’ll should be congratulating me…and yes 4.5, baby! Mazaltoving my ass to the bank and the family I always wanted…
There is a huge culture difference between the Black man and the White man. I think that is what you are experiencing. When I say Black men I can only speak form first generation African immigrants. I have not been around the African-American male to make any kind of statement.
I have always been more attracted to White men, they are generally more flexible and understand that their woman has an opinion. From what I have seen they also more considerate, for example the White man is not afraid to serve his woman once in a while. Plus a White man understand why you would want to go boating or hiking, or camping, or to a more upper class restaurant.
I like African men, but I don’t think I will marry one.
First, let me say congratulations on the upcoming nuptials and I wish you the very best.
Secondly, being that Im black, my son is black (biracial), and so is my father who is a GOD in my eyes, I have to step up and defend them. What type of woman would I be if I enforced bigoted and generalized stereotypes about black men, especially while raising a black male child? I would be doing him so much harm psychologically and emotionally. Although my son is biracial, he’s VERY secure with his blackness,and that was my plan.
I just hope that if you ever decided to have children that you didn’t brainwashing them to believe that they’re “whiteness” is an asset, but their “blackness” will be a downfall.
I always laugh when black women try to justify dating white men by basically trampling all over black men.
“I noticed the men are way more social than black men. They walk up to women, give them compliments, buy them drinks and are more confident. It is a myth that black men are these confident, cool men. The ones I met are afraid and fearful. ”
Interesting! I’m with Mike on this: “Black guys probably aint that into you.”
What’s your white guy look like? How old were you when you made the decision?
I ask these questions because I notice that black women start finding white men attractive around the late 30s and early 40s, point when those eggs start drying up and that biological clock alarm is going off. And, they usually go for the bottom of the barrel, last to be picked, balding, beer belly white guy who’s not really confident but just decided to say “F*** IT” and split himself some chocolate before he dies. My godmother is like that. Spent her whooole life alone, hit 50, put an ad in the paper, and married the first thing that answered, a short, old, bald white guy with a GREAT job.
With Michelle as First Lady Black women are looking “different” to everyone now and we should take advantage of it!
OH HELL NO IS THIS THE NIKKI I THINK IT IS!?
I’m have to blow u up nikki ’cause if ur gonna write a blog might as well spit out the damn truth as you stole that man from his wife and plotted to get him and tracked him down when he came to our church service that day in the front pew to speak (yes, he’s jewish but he aint THAT Jewish), you finnagled your way all the way up there with your tight ass cleavage and skirt and sat right across from him. tell them how you gave him your card and fucked him on the first week, yeah girl I got ya card, but more power to you….
People are going to get offended with this article (understandably) because if this article was about how great white women are, black people would have this shut down lol, but I agree with the author on this one. If it isn’t working out with black men, go somewhere else. Thats basically what she is saying. Black men do this and HAVE been doing this forever, so it’s nice to see it happening more with black women. It might be a little hard to swallow what she wrote, and thats only because its true, and even more truer in this day and age than it was 20 years ago. Sad, but true. Men and women are not what they used to be…
And while people are up in here getting all offended, isn’t it black women that are the ones down with black men and have the highest single rate in any race?!? Ladies, they are not marrying us, and that is so not cool!! So obviously somebody ain’t doing something right, and I don’t put the whole blame on black men, but they are supposed to be leaders, and if you ain’t leading right there is someone that can lead better…if your not gonna get the ring from the brotha-NEXT!
But everyone has their own personal experiences and tastes, so don’t knock it until you try it.
Darling what really is ur malfunction and ur point? I don’t even know you. If I did do what you said, so what? I got what I wanted and I’m happy. I’m living better than I ever imagined. You should try doing the same. Thank you about confirming my point about how jealous some black women are. Bitter and burned.
uh oh nicki, someone pulled your card lol
I feel that there is no color barrier when it comes to love. If this relationship was built on a solid foundation and the interest are genuine then I am happy for you.
My new boyfriend has many characteristics that you outlined (about your white man) and he is a black male. He is very rare, but we are evenly yoked when it comes to finances, house, vehicle, and interest. I have to admit that he found me when I wasn’t looking.
I guess I can say that the chances are slimer finding a black male with those qualities. I have worked around celebs and attended the upper-crust black events myself and all that I end up meeting are men that are way older than me looking for a young “barbie” and that’s not me. The young professionals that I meet have many women to choose from and always contact me when it’s too late.
God gives us all what we want and if that relationship is what was intended, then congratulations!
WOW!
the comments are better than the blog
@ Nicki…… if Darling is telling the TRUTH
Do you think he’ll leave you like he left his first wife……no judgment whatsover from me…I say do you BUT – if there is a such thing as KARMA—–are you fearful of your actions?
Is it ever really an issue of it not working out with black men?
Or are these angry, backed up black women just tryin to scapegoat someone due to their own inability to attract good black men?
How many white men have you gone through before you found that ONE? Or, did you pull a Halle Berry and shack up wit the first cracka that la-di-da’d on by?
I got questions and I know if I get honest answers, it’s going to chip away at the bullshit black women say about black men. Don’t scapegoat me. I’m doin my thing. Don’t get mad cuz some brotha gave you your walking papers like I did to some black chick a week ago. Fix your damn attitude and maybe your face and you might could fine a good black man instead of settling for the first white boy that comes out the woodwork because “he different”. That shit is so “bourghetto”.
Do you have a “fat ass”? Or iz yo ass.. FAT?
This comment is not directed to the author of the blog or anyone on here. This is a general statement I am making only because I would like to get my opionion across to this eclectic crowd. Quite frankly I am tired of hearing what always basically sums up to being : black men ain’t shyt. Has anyone ever taken the time to ask themselves if perhaps they are the ones who aren’t shit? (No disrespect but let’s call a spade a spade). I am a 27yr old black woman who has been hearing the whole ‘oh he ain’t shyt’ from my best girlfriends since early 20s. Unlike the majority of these friends I took my time with men (yes black men). If I thought he wasn’t about anything I left him alone immediately. I didn’t play the game of ‘is he my man?’ Only to fool myself and end up in a ’situation’ or false ‘its complicated’ relationship a year down the line. I knew that I wanted a respectable man who would respect me in turn. Someone who challenged me emotionally, mentally, intellectually and more. An equal who was about business. I’m happy to say I have met him and I met him b/c I let go of my childish ways of thinking that he must meet my list of ‘demands’ and I also let go of listening to friends. Friends will be your biggest downfall when it comes to a relationship – especially if he doesn’t meet those ‘prerequisites and qualities’ that we all love to sit around and talk about. My man is perhaps the most down to earth and intelligent man I have met – and I have dated men in law school, med school, professionals, etc. Sometimes allow yourself to let down barriers and open yourself up to meeting someone new (ie stop chasing the good looks and the d*** , be honest about what you want and it will actually happen – when your not looking and least expect it.
There is a culture difference, how can I say it louder. You either prefer one culture or the other. It as simple as that. it is not the color of the skin, it is the culture!!!!
@BW or anyone else I did not take anyone from their wife. That’s all I am saying about that. I am happy and Mr. Taurus I do not HATE black men. But they do need an attitude makeover you accused BW of not being this or that like black men are god’s gift. Black men need to get their acts together and start marrying us sisters….period. I am doing me. I am JUST FINE.
@sunshine good for u but that is not every black women’s experience and I bet you will be ready to jump off a bridge if that black man left you…, I refused to just be happy because a black man wants me.
@Kris THANK YOU!
(peeking in)
WOW what a HAM today…………love it.
Most black women turn to white men when they are tired of dating black men and choose to settle for the “Easy Way” Out and take up with white men who are pretty much “Yes Men”.
I *just* got on the white boy wagon seriously this year as more and more white boys were trying to holla at a sister recently.
I have always been an equal opportunity dater, and my boyfriends have been of black, latino or arab decent.
For some reason white boys just were never a part of my experience, and I never really considered dating (or marrying) one until recently. The brand new White boys version 2.0 these days have more swagger and confidence now than I recall in the past.
Or perhaps I should say the ones that have approached me lately have been very intelligent, ambitious, confident, cultured and pretty darn impressive when it comes to knowing relevant facts about Black people and Black culture (and I’m not just talking knowing the lyrics to a few rap songs here and there).
None of them have asked me silly questions about my blackness (is that your real hair? do you,um, actually TAN?) and haven’t really been super focused on my blackness or their whiteness, but the fact that we have a lot in common or they simply are attracted to black women.
I think it is fine opening up your date options to include white men. However, if we are exclusively dating one race only, that’s where the real problem lies.
Bottom line, I say bring on the white boys! And anybody else who is trying to step to a sister with some seriousness!
MRENTERTAINMENT
You couldn’t be further from the truth. That is not why Black women turn to White men. They turn to White men because of education level, the progressive mind set and avlaliability. Especially for the highly educated, sophisticate Black Females. There is even research to back it up. There are not enough sophisticated Black men out there for the amount of women.
Here is my thing. Women have really banded together (and we still have a long way to go) to pick each other up. Were are all of the men programs. The stay out jail for young boys, the finish high school and go to college. The Black men who have made it need to step it up. Black men are drowning in this country.
Robin I like your attitude!
why thank you, Gladys!
@NIKKI you can tell yourself whatever you want, we are not “friends” so you dont know me but I know of you–you have been on welfare, had fraud charges against you and what not, you crawled your way up the ladder of whatever fantasy world you live in, you live in big houses then get kicked back out to the dog house, using each man at a time, using each man for your come up until finally you got the “big one” but how you got him is dirty, a tameka foster wannabe, i pray for u.
WOW Darling, maybe you slow down and stop all of the projection. No actually I mean stop all of the projection.
LOL! This is what I blog about. How ironic.
I whole heartedly agree that BW should consider dating white and other types of men and get away from this idea that BM are the end all be all. That’s what BM have been doing for the past 40 years anyway.
I always find it ironic how irritated some BM can get in a discussion about why BW are now considering dating out more. These are often the same guys who keep talking about why they prefer dating white, Asian, and Hispanic women. Some of these guys also say the very same things about BW that Nikki brought up about BM.
To address some of the things that were brought up:
-I’ve always dated interracially (IR), I’m in my 20s, and I have a bangin’ body.
-BM are not marrying BW. Point blank. What are BW supposed to do- hang out? But I suppose that 70% singleness figure represents all the women who have “nothing to work with” right?
-BM have a relatively large pool of available BW to consider (as discussed in previous posts) which works to their benefit; therefore, they can afford to delay marriage and/or not take relationships too seriously.
-I have also found Nikki’s statement about WM and traditional home and family life to be true (as well as the “you know what” business).
-Relationships today are difficult period, no matter who you’re with.
-WM are not saviors. There are some very bad WM out there too.
-BW have many reasons for dating IR, some of which have nothing to do with BM. And no we do not wish that our non-black boyfriends were really black.
-The WM that BW date are not bottom of the barrel (some have said the same thing about WW who chose to be with BM by the way). That’s a stereotype and scare tactic used to keep BW in their place and believing that they are less than other races of women.
There’s a lot I could say about this subject, but I’ll stop here for now.
@ anthony. U seem quite upset that there r actually a few black women out there that don’t actually want your ass. Your stank attitude and narrow mindeness is exactly why BlackWomen are loving their other options. Just relax a bit, u BlackMen have been doing this forever and blatently throwing it in BlackWomens faces forever. Black women are very loyal to black men and for u to talk so recklessly just shows ignorance, accep the fact that BlackMen are not steppin up, so black women are stepping out, and I think its great!
@babydoll
ahem…
*ITCH PLEASE.. don’t worry about me. I am doing VERY well for myself. When you can count an apt building in NYC, land in Florida, house in St Thomas and St. John, and 1.5 acres in Nevis, THEN AND ONLY THEN will your stank funky black ass have any words for me. You don’t know a damn thing about this educated brother. That’s why silly little project chicken heads like you get the walkin papers regularly from men like me. You are nothing more than something for me to poke until you prove yourself otherwise. Fix your attitude and fix your gorilla face and MAYBE you might could live with me in this 2nd Floor 4br, 1.5bath apartment with full living room and dining room or spend a month or two island hopping in the Caribbean – St Lucia, Aruba, Bahamas, Virgin Gorda.. shit you probably never even heard of places like that.
Maybe you can do something with your life if you can get off “public assistance” and stop blaming black men for your dirty knees, stretchmarked belly, sour milk saggin breasts. You hoodrats annoy the hell out of me. Makes no damn sense for you to have a baby, have your 36yo momma kick you out, come into my building, lose your job, can’t pay $60 a month in rent, only for you to have ANOTHER baby by the next nigger, and have me spending $2k for some *uckin jew to get rid of you because, “Please no, I have no place else to go!”
And, then you have the nerve to take YOUR self-inflicted frustration out on me cuz the 2, 3, 4 or 5, barely educated niggers you let *ick you down left you without even knowing whose sperm did what.
See me at Colombian Emeralds on St Martin when you figure out why men like me don’t waste my time with idiots like you. I’ll be at MY timeshare at the Pelican. Yeah I do things like that. Now, go find yourself a white boy because you are NOT worth my time nor my energy. Next time you got something to say to an educated, well to do, Black MAN.. SWALLOW IT.
Wow Anthony
All of your accomplishments were overshadowed by your foul language. Keep it clean, you do have people on here that really prefer to not cloud their brains with obscenity.
Take the sophistication to the next level.
please ban anthony! And I think he’s frontin.
Wow. I was chuckling to myself while reading the whodikkery taking place in the comment section until I got to the very end. Then it just turned vile and ugly.
The anger and venom in Anthony’s comment pretty much negated any of the superficial accomplishments he listed. There was nothing in Babydoll’s response that warranted that amount of disdain and wrath.
It really doesn’t matter about your skin color or socioeconomic status or who you choose to love. Class and decorum (or the lack thereof) transcends race, I guess.
@ Anthony…are you serious?!? LOL u sound like you definitely have insecurity issues and mental unstableness for you to call names and start saying listing your so-called “accomplishments”…I genuinley think you are a habitual liar….Good thing you are hiding behind your computer because I am really embarrassed for you right now. You sound ignorant and like a psychopath. It is quite obvious you hate black women so much and I wouldn’t be surprised if you hate yourself too.
And for you not to even know me and get so personally insulted by what I said says a lot about you, and then spouting off at the mouth about things that I have never encountered (my mom being 36, being a hoodrat, public assistance, etc….) is so uncalled for, weird and random. You must deal with these types of women and they must have disrespected you in every worst way possible, so now your bitter and instead of dealing with those issues straight on, you harass blogs with your horrible close-mindedness and ignorance.
I am not offended by your comments at all. For someone to be so accomplished I felt like I just read something a 12 year old wrote, so how can I get mad at that? You obviously have some unresolved issues to deal with, and I hope you seek the help that you oh so desperately need. God Bless.
@mike…I am all about that free speech. So let not go banning people.
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On another note there is a lot of reality in this world we are blessed to live in. It would untruthful to say that its all good because it is not. Lets not be naive or blind that things are different for other people. Therefore, if you don’t understand a different reality from your own just accept it. Try to learn that some people live a different life and lifestyle. Take the information and grow, be it a lot, little or not at all.
Just like there are educated, intelligent and talented people in different cultures or groups. There are those in the same cultures and groups who just as ignorant and stupid as the next. Also there is someone in this world for everyone no matter what you look like or who you are as a person. If someone wants to date only white/black/hispanic/other its all good. Get it how you live and do you. Which means hey if that is what YOU want then it is all good because only YOU can make yourself happy. Furthermore, you save problems for the next man. The same goes for all parties. If you know what you want keep shooting until you obtain it. Although women outnumber men there are more then enough options for people to choose from within as well as outside your race and culture. If you are open minded race or culture does not matter since only the person does. Yes some roads you may take may be more difficult or different, nevertheless, its a road YOU decided to take.
I bet you Nikki watches alot of television. I say this because her resons for not dating in her race. Are so sterotyped and outdated! I love my sisters, keep your heads up! I have been with one beautiful woman for six years without stepping out on her. We worked for the life that you hope someone just gives you. I have three friends that are millionaires, plus I know a gang of borthers that work hard & play hard ever day. With jobs ranging from the railway to the operating room. We love i’ll kids, volunteer in i’ll community’s and try to live i’ll life’s in a Godly way. Not like what you see on TV! I also can’t buy a trendy computer without leaving my store! I can put the mandingo down, so I don’t have to( you know what) unless my wife signals that is what she wants. You sound lost, I see why looking for a handout. Please there’re looser in all races. It looks like your white boy has been living outside of his means. So now he needs one of us black man to fit it. Just don’t forget divide and concur! Stay strong my sisters, we about to loose that sterotype. All You have to do is look deeper than the cover. We’re out here!
Any person who dates one race exclusively or avoids dating one race exclusively is sick in the head.
A good man is a good man is a good man. A good man can be found in any race.
You have to get to know a man as an individual before you can determine anything about him.
Also, none of those ‘pros’ listed how wonderful the relationship is. Not even a hint about compatibility.
But, this is an article based on YOUR life experience, and this list of ‘pros’ are things that you are looking for, and all I can say is congrats on knowing what you want, and getting it.
However, I am fortunate to have had better experiences with BM; and have been able to avoid dating a man of ANY race that makes me want to write off that race completety.
*Peace.
I am a 29 yo. SBM. I have been through a lot of good/bad/inbetween relationships. I must admit that I’m looking for a SBM that is similar to me in terms of character/morals/income/status. I don’t see anything wrong with that. At this age I take responsibility for the waste of time that I’ve put into relationships that were going NOWHERE. I have not chosen the “WhiteBoy Route” and will not judge those who do. However, I grew up in a hh where Mom/Dad were black and are still together now, 37 yrs later. I want the same legacy for myself and for my children. As I wait for my equally yoked BM I have made a commitment to work on MYSELF, TRAVEL MORE, and enjoy life. I do not have any children and would prefer for my BM to be the same. As I get older this preference might have to change. However, I’m not compromising on anything else. Sometimes I see that BM will hold out for the “upper crust” WM, but not for the “upper crust” BM. If what you want is good credit, compliments and being treated like a Queen you should want that from ANY MAN that you meet, whether they be BLACK/WHITE/BIRACIAL. Now, I fully understand that a lot of “upper crust” BM date outside their race so now you have to deal w/ the cards you’ve been dealt. It is what it is. I say Do you, but do it equally across the board.
Sorry, I’m a Single/Black/Female. That’s what I get for not spellchecking
Wow! Really?? If any of you are familiar with my blog then you know I give black folks [men & women] a hard ass time. But what it really comes down to is, when are we gonna move past all the “societal” bullshit? First off, date whoever you want cuz trust, nobody really caring except you. Second, I’m hoping you’d date someone who’s capable of loving you the way you need/want to be loved regardless of race, creed, socioeconomic class, etc. And last, if you gonna date white please do not insult my intelligence and try to jive me into thinking white boyz got it all together cuz I know they don’t.
I can’t even be bothered with this today! *shew*
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Good for you Nikki. I will be marrying my fiancee next September and I can’t wait to rock my hyphenated last name, too! if more black women decided to expand their options these tired brothers would have to step u their game. But every time a black women tries to show us the way, some black women come screaming about black love because they think being black-male-identifies will win them brownie points. Puh-lease.
“Black guys problably aint that into you. If brothers like what they see, they holla.If you workin with somethin (top-n-bottom) finding a (black) husband aint that hard.” If this idiot represents the quality of “good black men” then I feel bad for all the single sisters out there waiting for their IBM. This idiot can’t even spell or use grammar. A ton of black women must not be “working with something” because most black men aren’t marrying anybody at all. I am a grown woman. I do not want anyone to “holla” at me. Decent men do not choose wives based on “top and bottom”. The more I read sites like this the more glad I am to be out of the all-black construct that devalues black women, pretends colorism doesn’t exist and contribute to 70% of black children being born out of wedlock. You can argue about stereotypes all you wants but you can’t argue with facts.
Great comments E, excellent comments Zabeth…and CONGRATS NIKKI, do YOU girl!!!!!!!
And DIrty Mo, just how many times have you colored outside the lines”? Girl PLEASE stop drinking the Kool-Aid!
BW kill me when they start hemming and hawing about this and that and ain’t never tried other flavors before LOL.
BW are finally waking up and expanding their horizons.
Wow…this was a good read on a taboo subject!
When are bw going to stop giving these clowns this racial loyalty/support when its obvious to them and the WORLD that the same IS NOT reciprocated???
Side Note: This is question is directed to black AMERICAN women. Because black skinned women outside the U.S. have no problems dated outside their race
Go on Nikki girl! I aint mad at you. I love my brothas too but I am opening up my dating options
P.S. – The one that would marry me today is 37, carless, money-less, 2 baby-mama havin , livin with a roommate and hasn’t “grown up” in the 8 years I’ve known him. The other one (I’ve known 4 years) that has talked marriage is 39, owns his home/boat/cars, is reponsible, but is too afraid to settle down now that he’s got all these “assets”…claims he’s content being single but will vent about being lonely during the holidays. The others…well most of the ones I kinda dig date outside their race.
Not bitter…just “enlightened”
@ Anthony Taurus &
@ Baby Doll
Although I enjoyed reading your posts, I am inclined to agree & disagree with the both of you to a certain extent.
@ Baby Doll
I do not believe that Anthony Taurus was exaggerating his accomplishments. He was merely highlighting the obvious discrepancies of Black relationships and misconceptions about Black men in general. His premise? In order to land a good Black man, most Black women need to market themselves as the total package. Read the guidebook. Melania Trump (Donald trump’s wife), was a fashion model who obtained an undergraduate degree in artchitechture, well travelled, well cultured, no children, and no issues or hang ups with men. Unfortunately, some Black women do. Ask yourself this. Why are you attracting these type of men? There is a saying “Instead of searching for new horizons, search with new eyes.” I know many women whose qualities are less than par, but yet their standards are ridiculously high, it’s almost comical. If a woman has multiple ‘baby daddies,’ limited education, obesity, stretchmarks, stressed out face, attitude, culturally naive, and bitter, chances are, finding the right man is slim.
@ Anthony Taurus
While I may agree with some of the portrayal you made regarding Black women, nevertheless you catered to a hasty generalization and stereotypical myth that all Black women are on welfare, or cash cow producing babies. NOT TRUE! There are more Caucasian women on welfare than Black women. There are some Black women who are beautiful, educated, cultured, well travelled, and physically fit. They want to be with a good man (whether he is Black or White) that compliments them and their lifestyle. It does not make them bitter. They should make no apologies for what they want. They have earned the right to be selective!
I am a Black woman BTW……just saying…