When You’re A Bad Girl…


By Guest Blogger Te-Erika Patterson

Mind your manners…Cross your legs…Speak softly…Let him lead…Wear skirts with heels…Become an excellent cook…Find joy in cleaning…Become a nurse…Or a teacher…Nurse your babies…Look the other way when he strays…And you’ll master…Being…a lady

But…when you’re a bad girl…these rules don’t make any sense. In fact, those who follow these rules seem crazy. Exactly what happens to the women who don’t follow the rules? Hmm…Let’s take a look shall we?

Angelina Jolie
Angelina Jolie gets enough flack from women who say she’s a home wrecker because her free spirited essence grabbed Brad Pitt’s attention and affection, which ultimately helped to create the life she always desired. And those same women who leave heated comments on websites and roll their eyes as her image flashes across the screen secretly desire to BE her and be WITH her. They want that same energy.

The Material Girl led the way for a revolution for women everywhere even though she had no role model to emulate. She endured criticism and hatred for her uninhibited nature but she stood firm, never apologizing for being who she was. Today, up and coming artists seek to channel her spirit to capture a sliver of her individuality.

Amber Rose

Why is Amber Rose on this list- she didn’t do anything but become the girlfriend of a star? If you believe that, then you missed the point of this website, we are all in the process of becoming. Amber Rose has all the makings of a trend setter evidenced by the fact that most would only dream of rocking the buzz cut like she does. She was a stripper, is openly bi sexual and could probably take your girl if she had 10 minutes alone with her. No matter how much we want to judge her or hate her, we can’t because it is simply inspiring to watch someone be exactly who they want to be.

Michelle Obama
Shhh…Be quiet. Let your man lead. Child please! Michelle Obama wouldn’t hear it. She actually led her man to the White House and rose to the most honored position as First Lady. On the night that shook the entire world, the night that President Obama won the presidency, he and Michelle settled down to go to sleep and she turned to him and said, “You’re still taking the girls to school in the morning.”

Maya Angelou

What a wise and humble woman. What an example of grace and strength. Well, many don’t know that Ms. Angelou has been married so many times that she won’t even reveal the number because she says she doesn’t want to take away the honor of your ideals of marriage. She was also a prostitute and a pimp in her younger years, leading women to trade their booty for dollars. What makes Angelou’s life so amazing is the fact that she lived life to the fullest, chased her dreams, shared her talents and walked alongside the greatest leaders without a hand up or an advanced education. She tells her story so eloquently and no one alive would dare to criticize this self made giant of the literary world.  That in itself, is what inspires so many.

To find out more about this guest blogger, please go to http://te-erika.blogspot.com/.


  1. CB says:

    I luv this post!

    I’m still trying to find that balance of bad and good and it’s tough. I’ve been good all my life and I’ve been unhappy for a very long time as a result. Not saying I can’t be aggressive when necessary, but I’m sick of apologizing for stepping “out of character” when I do something that makes me happy, yet shocks my friends and family. I don’t want to change too much of the good in me, but I can definitely say I want my edginess to be more prominent. Thanks.

  2. missing_pieces says:

    I like this post a lot because it makes since to me, I think I’m a bad girl. lol! I think I have some things in common with the list of women you’ve mentioned- most women do if they just broke from the societal conditioning.

    I’ve tried to be the nice chick (doormat) and it never got me love or respect- being some puppet just made me depressed and miserable. Now that I’ve learned a thing or to and have become assertive (note: not aggressive) I am able to get whatever the hell I want in life and have the respect. I am leaps and bounds from where I was just a year ago!

    I like the list because all of these women have their edgy/dark-side but are just as sweet/gentle and maternal and they can flip it either way. I definitely love Angelina, I think she uses Brad Pitt as sperm donor/ sex-slave and he’s enjoying every minute of it. lol!

  3. LOVE this post! As a former HBCU Queen, my friends used to call me “Queen of Controversy” because I didn’t conform to what my advisors thought was ladylike conduct. Pleeeeeeeeease!

    Each of these women listed above, whether you love or hate them, are all compelling & trailblazers in their own right. Controversial or not, they’re the ones so many guys & girls want to be and/or be with!

  4. Ms. Tee says:

    @ThatOne I disagree. Have u ever seen the interaction between Michelle and Barack? Clearly, she’s the more dominant of the two and she dont play! Being a bad girl, in this article means a woman who goes against the lady-like etiquette that is forced upon us in this society. Michelle rocks short shorts and she tells her man what to do and how to do it. She is definitely a BAD GIRL…in a GREAT way! I could never be bored by listening to her speak.

  5. ThatOne says:

    I would NOT consider Michelle a bad girl. What gives YOU that idea? This is a woman who has been IVY bred, never been in trouble, followed a straight path, she is about as exciting as stale bread.

  6. CamE says:

    The women you list in the article are well known bad girls but they are also loving moms and career women. They know how to separate different aspects of their lives. They know how to carry themselves as ladies as well as assert themselves when they have to. This is no longer a mans world and we as women have learn to balance being the wife the cook the sex goddess etc So being a bad girl is not only something that comes naturally , it is a gift.

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