Six Things To Do When Other Women Worship You

womenworshipBy Guest Blogger Toi

As an Alphanista, you are at the top of the food chain.

You know it, and so do other women. You look like you have things together, and sometimes friends and associates envy this and try to adapt your style for themselves.  And as last week’s “Clingy” post suggested, women are watching you.  Though this is rampant among younger women still searching for themselves, older women experience the same thing, but it is more disguised.

Your role as a leader, mover and shaker makes you susceptible to  being copied by others. While this can feel strange, here are a few ways to deal with women who try to become you.

1. Continue to be yourself. You’re the original, an imitation can never beat that. Eventually the copycat will find someone else to emulate.

2. If you don’t like conflict, take the non-confrontational approach. Don’t put her on blast. Although she’s the one copying  your style, be the bigger person.

3. Switch the style up. Take the Madonna approach and change things up every once in awhile. If you’re constantly evolving, its too hard for others to keep up with you. Don unique items that are hard to find. Which leads to my next point…

4. DO NOT take the copycat shopping with you. That’s just giving her the bait. Go shopping alone, or with another person who isn’t a copycat. Shop at independent stores and avoid malls and department stores.

5. If you feel the need to acknowledge it, confront her. Say something like, “Wow, I wore that same look last week,” while giving her a direct look. “I must be a positive influence on you.” She’ll be caught off guard that you called her out, and she may back down. If not, at least you let her know that you know what she’s doing. Or as an alternative…

6. Come to the realization that you must be pretty fly if someone wants to be emulate you. In life, in business, it’s natural for others to imitate what appears successful and unique.

You clearly have it going on!  We can’t control others, we can only control ourselves. Don’t let a copycat bother you, continue to be your best self. Eventually she’ll find someone else to suck the life out of. While she can copy, she can’t be you.

Guest Blogger Toi Duckworth is a sophisticated b-girl from Los Angeles who dishes on urban lifestyle topics via her blog, For unique ways of living life (on the edge, sometimes) get How To Do Almost Anything Like An Alphanista here.  Download instantly!


  1. Maryann says:

    @xen but why give them “hate and pity”? there is a natural hierarchy and order to life in nature and like it or not there are people who are succeed at things others dont. it doesnt mean that they are less than, it just is what is. yes, we should be ourselves and if someone believes they are alpha then that is their choice, it is all out for the world to see in their actions. there is a cause and effect to life and some of us just have better causes that lead to greater effects. actually i dont see anything here that is disturbing, it just makes me more curious. what i dont support or those who bring others down to feel good. but then if one is feeling bad because someone brought them down, then i think that is a gift and an opportunity to pay attention to one’s own life.

  2. xenjii says:

    This post is completely stupid. Top of the food chain?…yeah right. I see women who think they are “alpha” and look down on them. Why not just be yourself? if anyone has an issue they they do not deserve to know you. This sort of thing makes me really angry. By the way I am pretty you at 22 but I have more maturity and confidence than all of the people who do this sort of thing. “Trendsetters” deserve all the hate and pity that I can give them.

  3. Alexia says:

    I experienced this alot now I dont share anything or talk about my business. You call it worship I call it envy.

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