When A Life Is Too Controlled…

“When a life is too controlled there becomes less and less life to control.”-Estes

I read this in a book I am still reading “Women Who Run With The Wolves” by Clarissa  Pinkola Estes.

It’s gonna take more than a few words to break down.  But really doing nothing is letting go of control.   It brings more into your life.  That’s the oxymoron.  Okay, so you do nothing, then nothing is supposed to happen, right?  But it’s the opposite.  A sort of vaccuum gets created where new experiences, some good and some bad are allowed to move through.

There’s also death in the figurative sense.  Being willing to accept death as process gives the opportunity to have new life.  Estes put it this way :  “As in sleep, the Life/Death/Life nature in its most wildish form is as simple as a graceful exhalation (ending) and inhalation (beginning). The only trust required is to know that when there is one ending there will be another beginning.” Most people don’t want to face endings and continue to run away from anything stressful or “not nice” and keep the face on that “all is good” because of some image they have drawn of themselves to others.   It is a jail.  If there are things in your life right now that just seem to slip through your fingers, you haven’t dealt with the Life/Death/Life nature.

Deep, huh?

Just going with it.  That’s what I’m doing.  Instead of running away from the endings, run towards, because there’s always light.

I don’t trust people who’ve experienced no pain or great loss.  I just don’t.

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  1. EbonyLolita says:

    I’ll add that to my book. Sounds like a heavy read. I’m currently reading Death with Interruptions by Jose Saramago. death *with a small d* is a evolving theme throughout the book. I’ll let u know how it turns out.
    EbonyLolita 😉

  2. Maryann says:

    Yes it is pretty tricky to figure out and the the book is NOT an easy read. I tried to explain it someone and it just sounded “weird” lol. But it is a world renowned, bestselling book so somebody knows about it! 🙂

    It’s a challenge and I have gotten so much from it. I will see it to the end!

  3. Miss Andi K. says:

    This is an interesting post. I don’t quite understand it yet, but I’m going to think it over. I do like the concept of life as a series of exhales and inhales. Interestingly, this reminds me of breathwork, which is literally, an examination of one’s mental and emotional states based on their breath. Sounds far out, but there is a lot of research about it.

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