Weekend Rewind: Virgin Monologues: To Stay Or Not To Stay Home
By Guest Blogger, Gladys Wilson
There are some things the women’s movement never told you.
A stay at home mother should get just as much respect as a working woman. In fact, she should get more respect. It takes a certain sacrifice and determination to be a stay at home mom.
After the women’s movement, there has been a huge influx of women in the work place. What we have not stopped to consider is how this change has affected the roles of family members. Husbands are no longer the sole breadwinner in the family. Family roles have been destroyed and there is a big empty space. Stop and consider the roles that mothers played when they stayed at home.
Yes, they did not get advanced education, and the respect that they deserved, but they supervised their children. Someone was always home to make sure that children got off the bus, had a snack, did their homework and got some love. Stay at home moms also got to know each other, so neighbors knew each other.
Now 6-week-old babies are dropped off to daycare from 6:30 am to 6:30 pm. That is 12 hours; little children spend 12 hours in the care of someone other than their parents. We have 11 year olds (on up) coming home and staying by themselves for two hours or more. Then we wonder why more and more children are depression, obese and angry.
If you consider yourself a strong, sensible, well-educated woman then I think you will agree with me that latchkey kids and daycare babies are not being treated fairly. My mother always used to say, your home should look like your outward presentation. No amount of money, or your career should interfere with you rising well adjusted, happy, children. Your children are a reflection of you, if you do not do your job in that area, sister you have failed miserable. The following are ways to prevent your babies from becoming latchkey kids:
- Get married (marry up or equal income) before you have children.
- Marry a family man
- Plan the birth of your children the best you can
- Look at both salaries and see who is making more money.
- The person making less money should become the primary caregiver of the children.
- Set a reasonable work schedule
- Set a routine for children
- Have the non-primary parent set time aside to spend with your children (ie weekends or days off)
Raising a happy well-rounded child takes deliberate planning care and action on the part of parents. Not let your child become a stat.
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