This Time, It Ain't You! It's Him.
Just because he’s a misogynist doesn’t mean he sleeps alone at night.
Misogynists operate under a guise of being charming and charismatic. They wear “nice” to socially interact with others, but not to be good and kind. Truth is, these men appear “happy” but they aren’t. They have issues good enough for the psychiatrist’s couch. I once heard someone describe it as ” a woman with issues cries, but a man with issues is dangerous and can seriously hurt somebody.”
Again, this is beyond having issues.
Most women have at least met one misogynist in their life because they don’t come a dime dozen (at least, I hope not for you). Both sexes have questions about the other, but this goes way beyond that. Below is a description of a misogynist:
“….what a misogynist truly loves is the shallow image of women that exists only in one’s mind and is illustrated in society in such things as pornography or mainstream media that espouses that ideal. The hatred is directed at real women, for not living up to a misogynist’s expectations of women being easy to control and for not providing adequate stimulation for men’s interest….”
So, it’s more than not liking that women talk on the phone alot, it’s a deeper hatred that can come from the wildest things born and bred. The hatred is so deep he may actually seek prey. I put together some reasons, most inspired by a male friend who told me the truth about men who think like this. Men do talk about each other, and this dude is just “off.” Or is he? Here are some of the reasons I listed on my blog earlier this week for Baller Alert. We had fun with it, but sometimes the truth is in the pudding:
1. His penis is small, 6 inches or below for black men, like the little teapot, short and stout
2. He hates his mother and oddly enough subconsciously blames her for his small penis
3. He makes very little money or makes a helluva lotta money, he sees how women act with both and he hates them more
4. He is very short, below 5’8, and suffers from a Napoleon Complex too, bad combo
5. He was the object of constant ridicule in childhood, mostly from girls about his “weird” ways or look, or was distinctively ignored like he didn’t exist
6. He was sexually abused as a child
7. His mother was a prostitute
8. He is a closeted homosexual
9. He lives alone (beware of these men living alone for years and years)
10. He’s isolated, no one ever wants him on their team, or damn it, at their party if he isn’t taking photos or doing something constructive
Some men may argue that just because a man doesn’t fit into a woman’s objective is why women label him a misogynist. And interestingly enough, there are women who love men who hate them (that’s another blog). These women want to “nurture” and change the man. So the debate continues.
Just keep the ruler out on the nightstand… –
@ Reak Talk, it sounds like you have surrounded yourself with girls in women\’s clothing. Thus, I blame YOU for your lack of exposure to women who are intelligent, well-read, and articulate. It is very possible to not act and think from a place of emotions. Sure we all get caught up at times, but those of us who know better are aware that it is unwise to make decisions and/or take actions from the stance of \”feelings\” that are sure to change over time. That is all.
P.S. Read ANYTHING written by bell hooks or Florence Flovell Shinn
Many good points…none the less there is still a significant lack of honesty and recognition of the REAL world around us here.
History has proven that no segment of the human population can be successfully denied a part in the shaping of this world unless they accept it.
Women have participated in some of the shaping of this world but I simply refuse to allow them to claim victim hood when they as a segment of the human population have had more time and opportunity to succeed than anybody else.
Women must take their place in the REAL world through REAL actions and effort. Humans, and obviously men as well will not freely accept anybody who attempts to forge their way without paying the REAL dues of survival. No victim hood, no cleverness and no short cuts.
The overwhelming majority of women on this planet live, survive and prosper due to the efforts of men. This is not a theory…take an honest look around you if you think otherwise.
What ultimately saddens me the most about all this is that so many women still refuse to see the reality. A weak mind ruled by emotions would draw the conclusion that I am a sexist. Often this is the folly of women but men can fall into that trap just as easily (mental weakness is not gender specific).
I absolutely love to work side by side with women of real integrity. Some of my greatest accomplishments would have been quite difficult without the help of some very wise and capable women. They became my friends, allies, and ultimately my family…not a one of them would be likely to agree with most of what the women here have said.
Seriously? When will step out of their caves and into the new millennium?
Never,I’m sure. But heads up misogynist pigs…
WOMEN DON’T NEED YOU! We’ve ling since been able to make babies without ever having to see you,your hatred of us,your control freak ways. All we need is a little tube of your lack luster swimmers and we’re good to go
I have no problem with women, but I look for truth not what is politically correct. It is true in many areas that men are superior to women, just by a study of history or philosophy.
Equality of women was based on no scientific evidence whatsoever, only to please women. The historic basis for inferiority of women was based on what? how come in every society it was so other than Christian civilization? because that is what is rooted in nature and fact.
Women are there for the pleasure and support of men. Of course we can never let them know that.
How many women intellectuals are there? How many women study philosophy in their spare time? How many women do anything other than concerned with how to please men, relationships, social communications, and love?
Read On Women by Schopenhauer
Seeing the reality of women’s nature has exponentially raised my success with women. Just treat them like children and give them all the emotions they want, and thats all thats necessary. Ofcourse pretend like you love women and consider them equal.
Bill and Mike: If you can’t see the difference between only wanting a sexual relationship with a woman (no commitment) and hating everything about women in general because they won’t bend to your will, then I’d like to thank both you narcissist for checking in!!
@ Bill Cammack. Finally a voice of reason on this blog!! I agree!!
This is pretty funny. I need to write a dating guide for misogynists.
The fact of the matter is that a lot of guys aren’t into relationships in order to have “equality” with a female. Their goal is to have a good time. Period. This is why a lot of “strong women” get passed over. It’s not because guys aren’t savvy enough to match wits with them, it’s just that there’s no reason to.
You can get a chick that looks exactly the same, but doesn’t come with the crabby attitude.
I totally agree with this article. The deception is insane with a misogynistic man! My now ex has deep psychological issues & I do hope one day he gets help.
He’s misogynistic towards black women in particular and it didn’t sink in to me until 9 years into the relationship-guess I didn’t want to view him that way. All I wanted was to love him & all he really wanted was for me to be the enemy so he could validate his hatred & take it out on me mentally & physically.
I’ll never forget when he referred to black women as stupid black bitches. I almost lost it. I’m black, he’s biracial-white mom black dad. I know he’s been brought up to hate black women cause his dad seems that way though he’d never admit it.
It’s so important to look for the signs! I’m glad I got out of the situation before he really hurt me.
Very Good post. Everyone needs to learn how to look at themselves in the mirror.
Hmmmmmmm… you what would be interesting it to look these men across the ethnic spectrum. I wonder which man is more likely to be a misogynist:?
Men like the one described above get away with a lot because they are either charming or they are so reclusive no one really notices them. Except their victims that is. Scary stuff.
Apparently dudes like that have more problems than just their hate for women. How would one prioritize fixing all those problems, because they are far worse than flaws.
Numbers 3, 9, and 5 are his knocking on his door. Unfortunately, I had an experience with one and his issues stemmed from his ex-wife who he lost his virginity to (she cheated on him) and also a golddigger who got pregnant with his child. After those two episodes, I believe that he hated women. Talk about A MAN SCORNED! He is so into sex and not committment and his heart has a “Good Times” pad lock on it. The thing that is sad is that there may be a good woman for them but they can’t see pass their issues. Trying to change him and any other man is not gonna work so keep it moving if you feel that he has major issues.
I meant BTK not B2K.
If you look at all the the top historical serial killers, ALL of them display most if not all of the qualities mentioned in this post.
Jeffrey Dahlmer (closeted homosexual and introvert)
John Wayne Gacy
Ted Bundy
B2k Killer
The main quality that ALL of these killers had were their hatred of women.
I cant attest to #1 and 8. He’s my brother. Sick. If he wasn’t I’d turn him in. What he does to his “girlfriends” when he has one is cruel. Just sad. Problem is, women accept this because they are sick too, and go ahead and have a sick family. Sad!
@ LMartin…the short men that i have dealt with usually had the biggest u-know-whats lol….but thats another story. I prefer tall men, because some of the short dudes I dealt with had that Napoleon attitude that was most unpleasent to me.
There is a lot to say (no pun intended) about the small penis issue. The one ABM (angry black man) I have ever dated (3 months), had the penis the size of my thumb……erect. No stoutness. Met him via a blind date and he was far from my type. I thought I would try something outside my norm because my norm was not working. Well, Mr. Eenie Weenie Meanie convinced me to keep somethings normal…like a grown man’s penis size.
He had the attitude from hell, sub-par looks and a tiny dick??? Walking away from him was too easy.
Just want to add disclaimer as to height not all of us 5’8″ below Men are trying to overcompensate some of us are well adjusted loving boyfriends, husbands, lovers and fathers and in actually a lot contribute to my blog – iluvblackwomen(dot)com…SO THERE Maryann!!! hehehe luv ya.
@mike, oh please. those men may not have a hard time finding a wife but they will be happy. my ex husband was a misogynist–he’s in jail now for reasons i rather not disclose.
I beg to differ. I met my lady when she was single for years, she lived alone, had no man. She had a little ‘tude when i met her about men and was sarcastic. This lasted for about a month, when we finally made love she was as gentle as a dove been that way since best woman i ever had. Men and women deal with pain differently, but a misogynist isn’t easy.
I know women who mirror 8,9,and 10. Have they found a clasification for female “misogynist”? Although, these guys rarely have a hard time finding a wife who will love them dispite their “short” comings.