Tip 3: How To Be An Alpha Female

Tip 3-Be comfortable being alone.  Alpha females are usually cave dwellers, but have a “clique” or a pack when ready, they truly blossom when with their complementary half, an alpha male.

There are two kinds of alpha-females those who have friends and those who don’t.  What they have in common is, when she’s ready for friends she can gather up the troops.  She may lay low for months at a time, but a friend or wing-girl is just a phone call away.  Being an alpha female with friends is tricky business.  Most women (the betas) do not like alpha females, nor do they want to be alpha females.  The reason for this is that most women want to be liked.  Alpha females could really care less about this.  They just want to win.  They focus very little on what’s right or wrong, or how this is done, or how that is said.   The clincher is many women do admire the alpha female from afar.  They admire her spunk and carefree ways.  They secretly desire to be as bold and confident as she is.  But being around her may be a reminder of what they lack.  Moreoever, alpha females feel being around “civilian” ladies is too much of a drain.  The indecision, the emotional wreckless outburts over a man.  She just doesn’t have the time. 

But when it comes to her alpha male counterpart, she is all ears.  He keeps the steam in her tea kettle.  In the meantime, she finds community in her beta females, who admire her and who she can lead.

Every woman could use a dose of this, learning how to be alone, but learning your role in the group.  A true leader knows how to get people on their side, whether they need them or not.  Just saying….

4 comments

  1. Maryann says:

    Hey Lovely! You hit the nail on the head with what an alpha female is about, especially her nurturing ways. People don’t usually equate that with alphas and describe them as mean, when in reality her behavior is just protective of herself, and others, at times. She’s protective without being defensive or weak. If you’re a subscriber, reach out to me. Click on the “About” tab. We’re always looking for articles that fit the blog’s theme.

  2. Lovely says:

    The beautiful thing about the betas is they always tell the alpha she is appreciated. They really aren’t haters, they just haven’t gone through “The Fire” like the alpha woman. She’s definitely the teacher, yet she always willing to learn which in turn motivates and continues to boost everyone’s self-esteem. Alphas are the big mommas of the world. They capable of taking care of everything and are goal oriented. I believe they get bored easily and have very low tolerance for nonsense.

    Alphas don’t crack under pressure and actually do their best in stressful situations. They are the women who own the room when they walk in and everyone wants to hang out with this woman but are nervous as hell around her. So, they end up just watching her and later the alpha is told through a phone call, text or e-mail of the on lookers’ intentions.

    She also brings people back to life (this may be too abstract, but it’s true) because of her nurturing ways but that’s only when you get on her good side. Just my opinion…

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  3. maureen says:

    The clincher is many women do admire the alpha female from afar. They admire her spunk and carefree ways. They secretly desire to be as bold and confident as she is.

    YOU GOT THAT RIGHT! THE ONLY TIME MY FRIENDS COME AROUND IS WHEN THEY NEED SOMETHING OR NEED ME TO DO SOMETHING. IT IS SELFISH. AND I SAW MYSELF GETTING ANGRY ABOUT IT, BUT LIKE YOU SAID ITS BECAUSE I GOT SOMETHING TO OFFER SOMETHING TO TEACH. I CAN OWN THAT. I RATHER THAT THAN PLAY THE VICTIM ROLE OF SAYING IM BEING USED.

  4. Gloria says:

    This is a good one. Loner. Thats me. Not always happy about it but i do not get along with alot of women because of the pettiness. If I want to go out I have people but it is good to know that it is okay to not have a gang of friends. I miss it sometimes, but I treasure my sanity much much much more.

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