The Alpha At A Networking Event
By Guest Blogger Mila Singh
Who actually likes networking?
I’d like to know who jumps at the chance to go into a room full of strangers and go around making small talk. If you just thought to yourself, “Hey, I like doing that,” you are in the minority. Alphas do shine in these situations because they actually are ingrained with more “take over the room” skills so to speak.
Most people think of networking as awkward and would much rather just hang out with people they know. But the truth is that networking or whatever you want to call it (making new friends, establishing connections, broadening your horizons, etc.) can really help you go places. As much as some people like to deny it, being well-connected is definitely helpful no matter what career you are in.
Try not to think of it as “networking.” Networking sometimes has a negative connotation. The word brings to mind suck ups and sycophants- those people who would say anything to get on someone’s good-side. Think of networking more along the lines of friendly conversation, and you’ll be surprised how much easier it is. You don’t necessarily have to exchange business cards every time or get contact information. You never know when you’ll bump into someone again. If it’s appropriate to exchange information, you’ll know. No need to push things every time.
If you go into a networking event with a friendly, relaxed attitude, you’ll also be surprised at how many people gravitate to you. No one wants to talk to the awkward, shy-guy. So just relax and have fun. You might make a new friend or meet someone who will help you when you need it most.
Lastly, remember that it’s not just about YOU. You should be looking out for people who may need your advice or your friendship. If you are willing to be gracious and help someone, you can expect the same in return when you need it. This philosophy applies to all areas of life, but people often forget about it when they network. They fill conversations with “I” and “Me”. Instead, ask people about themselves, and find out more about who they are. The best networkers are amicable conversationalists as well as good listeners.
Mila is in her twenties and lives and works in New York City. She loves writing, running, and good music. If there’s a dance party, she’s there.
@missing_pieces there is definitely a fine line there, that is why people avoid this altogether and do their networking online, hence the popularity of all these social networking sites
Just wanted to say that I concur 100%. Especially about sycophantic imbeciles who feel like they have to impose themselves on a certain person to get ahead. It’s okay to be ambitious but not desperate and overly aggressive; it looks tacky and embarrassing.
If anything, figure out how the company/employer etc. would benefit by hiring you by doing research about the thing you desire to attain. Easier said then done, I know… but it can be done.