For the Alphanista, every decision is a strategic move toward a desired end.
Even her passions are born from a yearning for a specific lifestyle. Although she is notorious for planting seeds and setting dominoes in place it’s not as calculated as it may appear to those who wonder how she manages to make such fierce moves without fear. It’s an innate sensor, a vibrant intuition of sorts, that lead her to be able to recognize her opportunities for growth. Often, these opportunities for growth come in the form of relationships with men. These men become conquests.
There are women who are guided by that tingling, butterfly feeling that lead them toward love and there are those who recognize the opportunity for professional and personal growth, which often blossoms into their idea of love. For the women who are driven by the latter, rippling muscles and the “bad boy” attitude are turn offs. Instead their heart flutters at the sight of a strong resume, a stellar reputation for success or any combination of three letters behind a man’s name. These men magically morph into Shemar Moore even when they really look like Urkel.
The romantic conquest for the Alphanista is just as important as any of her goals. She has to put her skills to the test in an effort to see if she can get the BIG prize, the man with enough poise and power to help her cultivate her dream life and enough staying power to shine beside her as she recognizes her full potential.
She’ll meet a man along her journey to becoming her best self and her radar will go off. It’s not a “ching ching” type of alarm, it’s more like a slow beaming light that magnifies its radiance over time. There’s something special about him. He’ll usually be happily making his mark on the world as their paths cross and he will be delighted by her presence and passions. With her irreplaceable skill set he’ll find she adds value to his goals and she will turn them on super charge to attract him.
Is this kind of love sincere? Yes, in many ways. As women we are driven toward developing romantic relationships for many different reasons and none of them are more righteous than the next. We want what we want and there’s nothing wrong with that, it’s just that the Alphanista works smarter to get it.
Te-Erika Patterson frequently writes blog posts for Alphanista. To learn more about her visit her at www.te-erika.blogspot.com.