Here’s the crux: Many alpha females need a foundation. They can’t find it in another alpha male unless he surrenders some part of himself. Some will, if you are lucky. But in this case, Brad, like a true beta came waving a white flag. He needs very little of anything, but a strong woman to nail his ass down. Not nail it down because he’s bad, but give his life meaning, focus, maybe even a new identity.
Jennifer was neither. I don’t know enough about her to peg her, but from my estimation she’s just not edgy enough to be an alpha female. She’s very “safe”. Very textbook, dare I say, even pedestrian. She put the needs of her marriage and Brad’s baby making desires on the backburner for a career that never really took off. Or did it? Is she on hiatus (again)?
What Brad, and most beta men need are alpha females who spice up their daily, meager existence. Who else could make a married man leave his wife for a woman with orphans? You become the beta’s man world, their social calendar, the axis they revolve around. In turn, you define him, and accept his 100 percent devotion and vulnerabilities. Have you seen the funky hairdos and facial hair Brad’s experimented with in the last few years? Him admitting his love affair with weed? The man has been set free. If you think about it, it’s a nice balance. He needs security, you need grounding. What good is an alpha female who is walking around all secure and siddity and no where to root herself?
Don’t get me wrong. An alpha male is still my preference, but it is quite a tussle getting them around your finger. They fuss, complain, retreat, come back again, until you finally wear them down. So, if you have the patience, bless your heart.
If not, do you like Angelina did, and get yourself a Brad.