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The Virgin Monologues: Court Me


An alphanista knows there’s more than one way to win…especially when the “old way” hasn’t done much for ‘ya….

By Guest Blogger, Gladys Wilson (ohthesweet)

Courting has been around for all time and some people have embraced, while others have shunned it.

Practicing Christians embrace courting as a way to develop a relationship with the opposite sex and remain with in the guidelines set by God. The main goal of courting is to see if your partner is the right one for you to marry. That is the sole goal. People who court do not date.

I feel that anybody, Christian or not can decide to court. Courting is a way of forming a relationship that can heal old wounds or keep your heart from being shredded to pieces. The number one rule of courting is no sex. No sex of any kind.

However, courting is more than not having a sexual relationship with a person. It is deeper than that. It is seeing the person for who they truly are, without the cloudiness and emotions that come along with a sexually involved relationship. When you court someone, you become their friend and they become yours. If the person is compatible with you, then you create a deep bond, which will last a lifetime.

Six ways to ensure your courting relationship is successful:

1 Make sure that courting is right for you. Have to believe in it, have self control and be disciplined.

2 Tell your intended partner about your goals up front. For example, explain to them your intentions of courting.

3 Chose to visit with each other in open setting or by doing character building activities.

4 Dress modestly, to avoid giving off the wrong message. You can wear clothes that are flattering to your figure without it saying Motel 6.

5 Get to know each others families, and friends that will tell you a lot about your partner.

6 Always be fully aware of your partners faith based beliefs and how those beliefs play out in their lives.

Courting is fun and although it is not emotion free, you can end a courting relationship on mutual agreement, because both you and your partner will be fully aware of your feelings or lack thereof towards each other. Yes, your heart will ache a little, but it will not break in several tiny pieces.

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Weekend Rewind: Virgin Monologues: To Stay Or Not To Stay Home

Take your time, Michelle. Take your time!By Guest Blogger, Gladys Wilson

There are some things the women’s movement never told you.

A stay at home mother should get just as much respect as a working woman. In fact, she should get more respect. It takes a certain sacrifice and determination to be a stay at home mom.

After the women’s movement, there has been a huge influx of women in the work place. What we have not stopped to consider is how this change has affected the roles of family members. Husbands are no longer the sole breadwinner in the family. Family roles have been destroyed and there is a big empty space. Stop and consider the roles that mothers played when they stayed at home.

Yes, they did not get advanced education, and the respect that they deserved, but they supervised their children. Someone was always home to make sure that children got off the bus, had a snack, did their homework and got some love. Stay at home moms also got to know each other, so neighbors knew each other.

Now 6-week-old babies are dropped off to daycare from 6:30 am to 6:30 pm. That is 12 hours; little children spend 12 hours in the care of someone other than their parents. We have 11 year olds (on up) coming home and staying by themselves for two hours or more. Then we wonder why more and more children are depression, obese and angry.

If you consider yourself a strong, sensible, well-educated woman then I think you will agree with me that latchkey kids and daycare babies are not being treated fairly. My mother always used to say, your home should look like your outward presentation. No amount of money, or your career should interfere with you rising well adjusted, happy, children. Your children are a reflection of you, if you do not do your job in that area, sister you have failed miserable. The following are ways to prevent your babies from becoming latchkey kids:

  • Get married (marry up or equal income) before you have children.
  • Marry a family man
  • Plan the birth of your children the best you can
  • Look at both salaries and see who is making more money.
  • The person making less money should become the primary caregiver of the children.
  • Set a reasonable work schedule
  • Set a routine for children
  • Have the non-primary parent set time aside to spend with your children (ie weekends or days off)

Raising a happy well-rounded child takes deliberate planning care and action on the part of parents.  Not let your child become a stat.

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Virgin Monologues: Have A Sex-Free Weekend!


By Guest Blogger, Gladys Wilson

Ladies a night out on the town can be a very fun and exciting.

You get all of your girls together and you decided where to go. It can be especially rewarding after a long week of work, work, work.

Remember, for women there are several reasons why we go out. For virgins the motives are pretty simple. We go out to have fun, socialize and meet new people. We do not go out to meet men (if it happens that is a wonderful additive to the evening).  Our main purpose for painting the town is to unwind and release pent up energy.

One thing we should all remember ladies is safety first. You go with me, you leave with me. It is a small rule I have for all of my friends. I am not going to let you leave the club or concert or anywhere for that matter with a man you just met. Wait for day light, he will either still be there or gone. Either way it is in your best interest.

Some ways to have fun, virgin or just not ready for sex tonight:

1.  Wear something that flatters your figure, but does not say cheap. Looking cheap brings unwanted negative attention.

2.  Choose a club or concert that has a good reputation for entertainment. There is nothing worse than going to a club or concert and being bored out of your mind.

3.  Do remember that there are other ways to entertain yourself, like going to a jazz bar, or local restaurant with live local entertainment.

4.  Stay with the group (you can dance with guys but come back to the group afterwards).

5.  Group dances are always fun. I have met the best of characters when my group of friend and I were all on the dance floor.

6.  Do not drink if you don’t know how to hold your liquor. It looks tacky and you become a burden to your friends.

7.  Share the drinks tab, money is tight so if everyone pitches in there will be fun to go around.

8.  Do not accept a drink from a guy. No, they are not all trying to poison you or looking for payment in return. The thing is, you are out to have fun, you don’t want a guy standing there hanging around for the rest of the evening. Remember, you are not leaving with him at the end of the evening. Plus, you never know, he might want something in return.

At the end of the evening, make sure you gather all of your crew (yes even the tipsy once leaning on an eligible bachelor) and head home. I hope that you all had a fun, night and you are good for another two months or so.

See, virgins can have just as much fun as the average girl. We just don’t have the mission of meeting or leaving with a man.