Tag: valentine’s day

Whet Your Alpha’s Appetite V-Day Morning

You should be waking up a little late tomorrow morning (ahem!) for very good reasons (cough).

But you may want to wake up a few minutes earlier and make something a little special, satisfying and can take you both through the afternoon.  The bananas makes the house smell so yummy and cozy.  Later, ya’ll can order take out or go out to eat.  Keep it simple.  I don’t see what else there is to do on Vday but eat, sleep, and make love be it in Tahiti or in a studio apartment on Martin Luther King Blvd.  But that’s on you.

Also, most people can make french toast.  Eat!

Bananas Foster French Toast w/crispy, carmelized bananas on top
Bananas Foster French Toast w/crispy, caramelized bananas on top



* 4 large eggs
* 1 cup heavy cream
* 1 teaspoon ground cinnamon
* 8 tablespoons butter, divided
* 8 large croissants, halved
* 1/2 cup dark corn syrup
* 1/2 cup firmly packed brown sugar
* 1 cup maple syrup
* 1 cup chopped pecans
* 6 ripe bananas, halved crosswise and lengthwise
* 1 teaspoon rum extract


In a shallow dish, whisk together eggs, cream, and cinnamon. In a large skillet, melt 2 tablespoons butter over medium-high heat. Dip 4 croissant halves in egg mixture to coat both sides. Using a fork, remove croissants from egg mixture, letting excess mixture drip off. Place croissant halves in hot skillet. Cook 2 to 3 minutes per side or until lightly browned. Repeat procedure with remaining butter and croissant halves. Set aside and keep warm.

In a large skillet, combine corn syrup, brown sugar, maple syrup and pecans. Bring to a boil over medium-high heat. Reduce heat, and simmer for 2 minutes. Add banana halves and rum extract. Coat with the syrup mixture, and simmer 1 minute. Spoon over French toast. Serve immediately.

Alpha Read: It’s Not A Sin To Be Single

Greetings Sisters Of the Sublime Life!

I do hope you’ve enjoyed the latest offerings on Alphanista.com. As a the Senior Writer for Alphanista.com and an inspirational writer and Relationship Coach, I aim to help you cultivate your dream life. In addition to more than 200 original articles, videos and eBooks I am proud to offer my very first print book. Just in time for Valentines Day, my latest book is called It’s Not A Sin To Be Single.

It’s Not A Sin To Be Single tackles the following questions:

Why is there so much pressure to be married?

What can I say to people when they ask me why I’m still single?

How do I satisfy my sexual desires as a single person?

How can I change the way I view my position as a single parent?

How can I learn to love myself as I am?

Are there any benefits to being single?

Why am I so miserable?

Will I ever get over the demise of my last relationship?

Is it okay to dream about having my ideal relationship?

There is nothing wrong with you.

That’s right, you read correctly. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. Being single is not a punishment. You didn’t do anything wrong. You are exactly where you are supposed to be at this moment. This moment is necessary. The only thing holding you back is the fact that you haven’t discovered why who you are right now, is exactly who you need to be. – Te-Erika Patterson

You can order online by visiting my online store. Shipping takes just 3-5 days.

I do hope this book blesses you.

Good Life: What To Get An Alpha For V-Day

When he/she's allergic to chocolate....
When he/she's allergic to chocolate....

Well, it depends.

Personally, I don’t like surprises.  I will write down and tell you what I want, where to get it, even send you the link.  You can “surprise” me if you insist by choosing from 3-5 items I send.  But I will tell you that I don’t like a gift and it should be returned.  Been like that as a child.  I don’t like to see people’s money and time wasted.

With that said, just ask your alpha to write it down.  What do you want? Nice and simple.  If you don’t know what you want, then do the leg work.  Find out. Damn.  Can’t be that hard.  This way we all avoid disappointment which is a major downside of Vday.  It’s just like Christmas, but in pink.

Now, when I read about the below it only provoked the question of what standards are you living by, which can totally influence any list you create.

You can only go as high as they are.   For instance, do you want just chocolates for Valentine’s Day or do you want more?  Maybe you want to be spend it alone, with someone, or act like it doesn’t exist.  The below is just a nice example of what you can get when you keep your standards high.  If not now, then next year. Right?

Rosewood’s Ralph Lauren Romance Vday package  starts at $799 for two nights. In NYC, you can find this at The Carlyle.  It includes:

“A private candlelit dinner, created specially by one of Rosewood’s acclaimed Executive Chefs, will be served en-suite. The indulgence will continue the following day with complimentary spa treatments for two and a limited edition bottle of Ralph Lauren’s Always Yours, featuring a delicately hand-crafted glass dauber faceted like a diamond, to take home as a souvenir of an incredible weekend…”

It also comes with a personalized monogrammed cashmere throw. Package sounds so good, you can do it alone!  You can then write down what you want for next time…

Weekend Rewind: 10 Tips To Find A Man Without Leaving The House

"yes, yes, yes!....."

This is an oldie, but goodie.  Most of us know how to do it outside the house.

It’s Valentine’s Day weekend, this little list may come in handy for those of you who want a relationship.  To the others “under construction” or just waiting that’s cool, too, as long as you honor your yeses and nos.  Don’t be two sided about stuff, nothing ever happens then.

Fellas you can apply this, too, minus #9!  Enjoy.

When an an alpha female decides it’s time for a committed relationship nothing will stop her.

Not even a recession. If a relationship is her focus, she will go to the depths of the earth to make that pop.  She’s not used to having a half-plate, she wants the entire 4 courses of life—fulfilling health, wealth, self expression, and love.   It’s called the square of life, when everything is in its place.

She’s not like other women who are resigned to see their lives go by and dreams for a family wither as their eggs wonder “what the hell is going on out there?”  Yes, I said eggs.  That is a woman’s creative life force.  They can pick a man out better than you can.  But that’s another post.  An alpha female is very conscious of her needs for a man and is proud of that.  She likes talking about it and expects it.  She loves the right man in a deep, intense way that without it in her life makes her feel she’s not using all her gifts.  She’s sits at the big dinner table of life and digs in.   She’s driven.  She zones in and gathers her inner resources.  Bringing an available man into her life becomes just another project that she manifests.  Believe me, I know.

I cannot begin to tell you how much life moves on its own when you sit down and be still.   I do what I call “treatments”.  All while being at home.  You get very focused and clear when you spend time with yourself.  It should be refreshing, not depressing.  If you want some big ‘ole muscular man thighs in the bed during winter who’ll be around for more than a season, see the tips below.  Challenge yourself to do something different.

Below are 10 Tips To Find A Man Without Leaving The House.  This list does not include chat lines or chat rooms, thank you.

1.  Single male neighbor?  Has a girlfriend?  No worries, invite them both over for coffee.  If he’s not married, he’s available.  See this Friday’s blog.

2.  Sign up for an online law of attraction course and experiment with it. Get the juices flowing.

3.  Create a vision board that will send the vibes out, while you rest.

4.  Invite a group of friends over for movies and ask each to bring a male friend you never met ( to avoid having these men “vetted” make sure they are from your “special” friends not the everyday ones.)

5.  Host a potluck dinner party, put it on Craigslist, and see what happens; lady did this for Thanksgiving, story is online somewhere

6.  Crank call somebody if his voice sounds nice continue the conversation; ever wondered who was that “wrong number” it wasn’t by mistake

7.  Send an email to your list asking to be set up on a blind date (please, get over the “desperate” feeling that is so not alpha)

8.  Remote view your soulmate from afar in a meditation (link with them in spirit)

9.  Open the door naked for the UPS man and see what happens.  (make sure you keep chain on door)

10. Scan your friends’ Facebook photos and add any of their friends that look good (because everyone else does it)

Got a tip not on the list?