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WEEKEND REWIND: How To Tame An “Alphanista”

By Guest Blogger Te-Erika Patterson

If you’re up for a challenge, your relationship with an Alphanista will be the most frustrating, yet exhilarating ride that you’ve ever experienced- that is, if you know how to navigate the rocky terrain.

Sometimes I meet men who have so much potential but they just don’t get it. With a free spirit like me, you have to operate differently. The same rules that you’ll use with the average woman who uses her skills in the kitchen or the bedroom to snag her man won’t work with me.

Although there will never be a definitive guide to taming an Alphanista, (because she can not be tamed) following these suggestions will get you closer to your goal- the rest is up to God.

Be Consistent
You have to be consistent, mainly because I’m not. My preferences or taste buds can shift whenever the wind blows and I am energized by the complete freedom to change my mind on a whim. It’s challenging enough to wake up and decide what I want out of life “today” so I need a man who means what he says and does what he promises to do, day in and day out. Since most people alter their opinions to match mine, a man who is consistent with his preferences, expectations and actions provides the kind of structure that translates erotically.

Say Yes
You don’t say “no” when I see something pretty because you don’t have to. Your finances are not shaken by the state of the economy because your resources are long and strong. Even if you do lose out on a business venture, you have 5 more right behind it that are flourishing. You believe I deserve the best that life has to offer and you know it’s your responsibility to give it to me. I’m your fantasy woman and you’re not about to spoil your dream come true by not being able to give me my heart’s desires.  There’s nothing that delights you more than watching my eyes twinkle as I give you a kiss after trying on one of your sparkly gifts or receiving a phone call from a business connection that you supplied. Thank you!

Correct Me
Yes, I do run shit in most situations and it is completely within my reach to do so elegantly but spending so much time teaching and molding others can take a toll on the psyche of an Alphanista. Don’t abuse this gift but I want to give you the secret; I like
being taught and corrected by my man. If you can teach me something that will add to the success of my business endeavors I will definitely keep you around longer. And…every once in while, I need to be reminded that I am a mere mortal. An intentional, open handed smack to my rump will revitalize me and I will thank you for it.

Feed Me
I like to eat. You bring the food. That’s your job every single day. Show up to my place empty handed and that proves you don’t give a damn about me or my well-being. Goodbye.

Let It Slide
Sometimes the line between work and play can be blurred, at least in my mind. I have to be the hard ass to get things done and sometimes I carry that attitude home with me. I apologize in advance but you will just have to learn to deal with it. Don’t fight me on it. Let me rant and rave and try to strong arm you into doing the dishes. Instead of overanalyzing my requests- Do the dishes. It doesn’t take away from your role as my man. When I come down off of my power trip, I’ll realize what I’ve done and you’ll benefit from an apology you’ll never forget.

Let Me Love You
Yes, I have a whole list of people whose main desire is to please me but I have a sweet side too. I want to spoil you and pamper you and be your trophy too. I want you to brag to your friends about how well I take care of you and how much I add to your success. Don’t fight me when I want to do something nice for you. You deserve it just as much as I do. Let me take you on a trip and buy you something nice. Let me sweep you off your feet. Allow me to use my powers for good in appreciation for the wonderful man that you are. Let me love you in all of the extravagant, calculated ways that I know how because…I want to. Isn’t it your job to give me what I want? Uh huh…That’s right.

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Everybody Wants To Be Me, But…

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By Guest Blogger Te-Erika Patterson

Although I am an Alpha female and future superstar on the rise, that doesn’t mean that I don’t experience many lonesome nights.

Because I’m often the leader of the pack and very much focused on my goals and dreams so many people come to me for advice, encouragement and approval yet, there’s no one for me to turn to.

While my friends are preoccupied with boyfriends, jobs and finding themselves I’m usually planning my next innovative project and reaching out to other women who have accomplished the dreams that I have. It brings me extreme pleasure when I make a good connection yet, I yearn for someone to share my journey with.

I’m not just talking about having a boyfriend; there are plenty of men who can fulfill my sexual and companionship needs. What I’m looking for is someone who truly understands what it’s like to be surrounded by people who all want what you have- that brilliance, that confidence, that inner light that beckons people from near and far.

Every successful person knows that in order to be a true leader, you must first be a true servant. I spend my days and some nights counseling others, encouraging them and helping them to recognize their inner power. By the time I’m done with my daily inspirational duties, I’m exhausted and left feeling empty. No one knows this of course. Perhaps no one even cares. They come to receive direction and I give without hesitation yet I would love to see the day when I can kick back and receive the same type of inspiration and positive energy that I give.

I can’t walk away from who I am and what I give as a leader because being who I am truly brings me joy. It’s just…As I participate in the creation of other people’s prosperity while I’m on my own grind to achieve dreams that are more grandiose than average, I do wish to someday take a break and allow someone else to take the reins for a little while.

I imagine the day when I will only be Alpha when I want to be. But that day will only come when I’ve linked up with someone that I can trust to lead me where I’m already going. You know, someone who has already been there and understands the importance of allowing me the time and space to rest so that I can be refreshed and give even more.

Until then…of course I’ll help you. How may I serve you today?

The Alphanista’s Conquest

By Te-Erika Patterson

For the Alphanista, every decision is a strategic move toward a desired end.

Even her passions are born from a yearning for a specific lifestyle.  Although she is notorious for planting seeds and setting dominoes in place it’s not as calculated as it may appear to those who wonder how she manages to make such fierce moves without fear.  It’s an innate sensor, a vibrant intuition of sorts, that lead her to be able to recognize her opportunities for growth.  Often, these opportunities for growth come in the form of relationships with men. These men become conquests.

There are women who are guided by that tingling, butterfly feeling that lead them toward love and there are those who recognize the opportunity for professional and personal growth, which often blossoms into their idea of love. For the women who are driven by the latter, rippling muscles and the “bad boy” attitude are turn offs.  Instead their heart flutters at the sight of a strong resume, a stellar reputation for success or any combination of three letters behind a man’s name.  These men magically morph into Shemar Moore even when they really look like Urkel.

The romantic conquest for the Alphanista is just as important as any of her goals. She has to put her skills to the test in an effort to see if she can get the BIG prize, the man with enough poise and power to help her cultivate her dream life and enough staying power to shine beside her as she recognizes her full potential.

She’ll meet a man along her journey to becoming her best self and her radar will go off.  It’s not a “ching ching” type of alarm, it’s more like a slow beaming light that magnifies its radiance over time. There’s something special about him. He’ll usually be happily making his mark on the world as their paths cross and he will be delighted by her presence and passions.  With her irreplaceable skill set he’ll find she adds value to his goals and she will turn them on super charge to attract him.

Is this kind of love sincere? Yes, in many ways. As women we are driven toward developing romantic relationships for many different reasons and none of them are more righteous than the next. We want what we want and there’s nothing wrong with that, it’s just that the Alphanista works smarter to get it.

Te-Erika Patterson frequently writes blog posts for Alphanista.  To learn more about her visit her at www.te-erika.blogspot.com.

For the Alphanista, every decision is a strategic move toward a desired end. Even her passions are born from a yearning for a specific lifestyle. Although she is notorious for planting seeds and setting dominoes in place it’s not as calculated as it may appear to those who wonder how she manages to make such fierce moves without fear. It’s an innate sensor, a vibrant intuition of sorts, that lead her to be able to recognize her opportunities for growth. Often, these opportunities for growth come in the form of relationships with men. These men become conquests.
There are women who are guided by that tingling, butterfly feeling that lead them toward love and there are those who recognize the opportunity for professional and personal growth, which often blossoms into their idea of love. For the women who are driven by the latter, rippling muscles and the “bad boy” attitude are turn offs. Instead their heart flutters at the sight of a strong resume, a stellar reputation for success or any combination of three letters behind a man’s name. These men magically morph into Shemar Moore even when they really look like Urkel.
The romantic conquest for the Alphanista is just as important as any of her goals. She has to put her skills to the test in an effort to see if she can get the BIG prize, the man with enough poise and power to help her cultivate her dream life and enough staying power to shine beside her as she recognizes her full potential.
She’ll meet a man along her journey to becoming her best self and her radar will go off. It’s not a “ching ching” type of alarm, it’s more like a slow beaming light that magnifies its radiance over time. There’s something special about him. He’ll usually be happily making his mark on the world as their paths cross and he will be delighted by her presence and passions. With her irreplaceable skill set he’ll find she adds value to his goals and she will turn them on super charge to attract him.
Is this kind of love sincere? Yes, in many ways. As women we are driven toward developing romantic relationships for many different reasons and none of them are more righteous than the next. We want what we want and there’s nothing wrong with that, it’s just that the Alphanista works smarter to get it.

An Alphanista vs. HMW

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By Guest Blogger, Te-Erika Patterson

Although an Alphanista and an HMW (High Maintenance Woman) may bear remarkable similarities in appearance due to their immaculate flair for style and unflinching flock of followers, the buck stops there. When it comes to dealing with the various intricacies of life the two could not be more different in their approaches.

Friendships
In friendships, the HMW requires devotion and attention. She must be complimented by her friends on every occasion and she seeks their approval when making decisions for her life, although she would never admit to it. She is fickle when it comes to relationships with women. If one of her so called friends does not consistently adore her, she will walk away without even so much as a goodbye, turning to others who will readily give her the admiration that she craves.

Although the Alphanista is usually the most dominant of her circle of friends, she leads in a covert way that is not demanding and allows those around her to believe that they are actually calling the shots. The Alphanista is turned off by women who cling to her every word and mimic her every move. She is supercharged most by fellowshipping with other Alphanistas whose inclination to make their unique mark on the world pushes her to want more and do more.

Business
In business relationships, the HMW is a stickler for details. She is a very savvy business woman because she will cover all of the bases and is sure to get all of the facts before she makes a decision.

The Alphanista has an innate business instinct that she follows without fail. She knows where she is going and even when she is unsure of the steps necessary to get there, she trusts herself to make the best decisions for her life and career and is fueled by her independence. She doesn’t have to check with anyone before making a business move, she is confident enough to deal with any praise or repercussions that may be the result of her efforts.

Style
The HMW is a slave to fashion trends. She is usually spotted on the front row of every fashion show or buying out all of the high end fashion magazines to keep pace with the changing times. She would never wear last season’s handbag or be caught dead breaking any of the many faux paus of style. You will always be impressed by the HMW when you see her at an event- and you should- she takes great effort to maintain her perfection.

The Alphanista usually sports a more classic looks than those regurgitating the fair weather style of the season. She laughs at the trend setters and their followers because she knows that trends are fleeting and require too much work to maintain. She often has a signature accessory like a scarf, perfume or pair of sunglasses which becomes well known as her trademark and is admired and copied by those wishing to be more like her.

Love
When it comes to love and romance, the HMW can snag any man who is eager to feed her addiction to praise and approval. She is often lucky at love due to the fact that there are many men who cling to women who have the appearance of success. In relationships, the HMW is clearly the dominant force, however, she leads by making demands and punishing those who are unable to meet them. Submissive men are a good match for the HMW.

While the HMW is attracted to men who are eager to do her bidding, the Alphanista can not stand a man who is a go-to boy. She is also dominant in her countenance but she knows she can reach greater heights in life with a man who is just a bit more dominant than she is. He is a smooth individual who picks and chooses his battles carefully, knowing full well when to put the smack down and when to sit down and be quiet which delights the Alphanista because she never knows what to expect.

Which one are you?

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