I was listening to Whoopi on The View one morning and she made perfect sense, “Are we supposed to marry someone just because they asked?” Just because a man chooses you doesn’t mean you are chosen and that’s that. Why do folks forget it’s the woman who makes the decision? She says yes or no to his choice. Her answer can start it all or end it all.
Think about it. How many women you know right now waiting to be asked to say yes? Do you really want to choose that? They do and spend the rest of their life changing the man or make his life a living hell for her own neurosis. Then they get fat and blame the man and the kids. What a ball of sunshine.
Folks, at the end of the day, as in all of nature it is the woman that makes the decision whether a man will be in her life or not. Men are projectors. He’s supposed to be choosing all kinds of things to keep the species going. But it’s the woman who discerns what quality of species will manifest. She protects the integrity of the human gene pool. See the results lately?
Unfortunately, women have been slipping, leaving the gate open. The financial markets isn’t the only thing that has fallen. In all truth, men don’t really like this, according to the interviews I’ve done for my books and articles. They like sports, they like to feel there are rules, they like to know how to perform, what the expectations are, and such so they can make the play or not. They are free to move around, but don’t like that women are. Another perfectly natural thing to feel. It makes them feel out of place, out of role, out of balance. A man out of role is not much good to himself or any woman.
Back in the days, women used to sit together in a circle and share secrets with each other on how to take care of a man and keep him happy. Yes, there was some sex talk, but most of it was how to “talk” to your man and “behave” with your man. Men are supposed to chase, women are supposed to catch. Men watch women. I once said on a radio show, if all women in the world were to say “I will only have sex with men who have Master’s degrees,” do you know how high the graduate school rate will skyrocket? They’d need to build more schools.
And it has just a bit more to do with than some good sex. No matter how good your sex is somebody else’s is going to be better. Most men will tell you that less than a 1/3 of the sex they get is actually “great”. (Let me find that survey) So, please put that petty little notion to bed about “how good the sex is”. It just isn’t the same anymore if you’re dating by everyday standards. It’s like food these days. You hungry, you eat. You hungry, you have sex. And for the ladies, who think they can have sex like a man, you can never be as much of a man than he is. Simple as that.
Shame. Take this opportunity to have raise your stock some. An alpha-female can go through a few dry spells but when she comes back, she comes back hard, at a higher level, already at another place that the other girl is still trying to get to. She rather spend the time getting the big one, yes, and I do mean big in every way. She always has her man “marked”.
So, close the gate because the house is smelling funky. This doesn’t mean being picky or critical of men. Because if you attract “problem” men then there is something problematic about you. I always base the quality of a woman on the quality of her man and vice versa. Take some old school “man 101” courses. Start asking for visitor passes. Less is always more.