I want a asubmissive wife, until it’s time to deal with the IRS, then I want the alpha woman.

You want a dominant husband to relieve you of responsibility at home, until he demands something you don’t want to give. Clearly, you most emphatically do NOT want his dominance maintained by force.

Watch the animal planet a bit closer, the male lion rules the roost, up to a point. When the hunting is bad and the females can’t do it alone, he has to get his lazy butt out on the Serengetti and help bring home the wildibeast.

You don’t want a woman beater, you just want a man to dominate by what? Charisma? You even pointed out in your post that the lion dominates by threat of force.

You’re going to respect me, not because you are submissive, but because I am more alpha than you.

I am not complaining or criticising, just observing. As I said, it’s a conundrum.

Flitcraft

It has taking me a while to truly admit I want a man who has dominant traits. My father had those traits but then he got lost in the MATRIX. He was a very intelligent, wise, tall, sensitive, and handsome black man who hardly ever raised his voice but could let you know what it was like if you crossed him. It is hard for me to still respect him because he has let his current girlfriend steamroll over him. He has done a complete 180. I can’t be with a man like the way my dad is now.

A gotta’ have a man with a back bone who is strong willed and has intelligent/informed opinions who I can learn from. A man who would love nothing more to take care of me, not financially ( although that would be a plus) but emotionally and can put it on me . Somebody I can grow spiritually with and open me up to try new things. If the right man came and took me ( that’s right, claim me as his because he new I was the right woman for him). If I felt like he is keeping it “100″ and doing what’s best for us- I ain’t questioning nothing! I would gladly let him lead, lay back and hold up my end of the deal.

On the other hand I’m scared of being handled. I want to be that b*tch and have it all. I’m confused about love right now- and I don’t need no other confused person in my life.

I ain’t asking for no wife-beater, womanizer or sociopath; that’s actually weakness, not true dominance to me. I like a confident guy, who may even be kind of shy but knows what the hell he wants. There’s nothing worse than a guy who can’t make up his mind and can’t take responsibility or a place of authority. If I’m going to look up to you and respect you then BE THAT DUDE! Don’t betray my trust because you’ll never get it back, that’s just how I am.

I watch Animal Planet a lot and I always notice the Alpha male lion in the pack, he just naturally exudes power, respect, sensuality and everybody gives him that position or they stop breathing. I always love those movie scenes when the guy takes control, you know, grab the woman by the wrist, throw her down on the bed and just…. well, maybe I’m revealing too much of my desires. lol!

I’m not saying I want an egotistical jerk, but a man that can take charge, in a respectful way. lol!

He is now 100% responsible for the health and happiness of his sub. If she needs to be in charge of certain things to be happy ,he better let her be, if she needs things done for her, he better do them. The only conflict would be when his judgment of what she NEEDS conflicts with hers. At that point the dominant must tread with extreme caution, the responsibility to make the right choice is 100% HIS.

I guess if I were female and wanted to be a sub, I would look for a caring, INTELLIGENT person to be my dominant partner. So if that’s your choice, good hunting, ladies, but BE CAREFUL! Make the guy take an IQ test or something.

So many women have the wrong idea of this
But after careful thought this is the kind of woman I am looking for

I have however supressed some of my own desires (where I wanted to live, certain freedom etc) and submitted to his desires. However during all of the changes I made on my husband’s behalf, I’ve always maintained full and total control over my mind, body and soul…so I guess I’m not submissive. lololol…