By Guest Blogger Joreather Settles
Looking back on this season of The Real Housewives of Atlanta, the supreme Alphanista is Sheree for her ability to “bounce back despite the odds.”
For example, during season one she ended a major chapter in her life by finalizing her divorce and attempted to roll out her business which failed miserably. During the off season, it was reported she did not get the settlement expected and as a result her property went into foreclosure. Then, she started season two on a sour note with a petty squabble and enduring emotionally while supporting a fellow cast member as she rolled out of her fashion line first.
It’s unfortunate she was edited to be the villain of the show but despite the odds she rose to the top of the group. She did it by having a consistent attitude, hitting the gym, celebrating her small accomplishments as well as others, laughing at the naysayers (the photo shoot) and most importantly, aligning herself with people who were determined to see her dream come to fruition.
A key element to being an Alphanista is having resilience. Resilience refers to an individual’s capacity to thrive and fulfill potential despite oppressive conditions such as death, chronic illness, sexual, physical or emotional abuse, fear, unemployment and community violence.
According to James Neill, resiliency is:
· having the ability to “bounce back” and “recover from almost anything.”
· having the “where there’s a will, there’s a way” attitude
· seeing problems as opportunities
· “hanging tough” which things are difficult
· having the mental capacity for seeing small windows of opportunity and making the most of them
· having deep-rooted faith in a system of meaning
· having a healthy social support network
The cast had platform of two million viewers tuning in weekly to promote their business. While most were moving forward, Ne-Ne seemed to be going in a circular motion. She was catty, seemingly jealous and always referring to her never ending sob story of her parents and childhood. With that said, she was the biggest disappointment because she shows minimum growth.
Overall, I had tears of joy for Sheree because she capitalizes on her opportunity and ended with the balance she deserves.
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