POLL: Would You Get Married In Less Than A Year?
September 28, 2009
We all know a “certain couple” got married this weekend.
No one seems to be as interested on who these two are, as they are interested in how long they knew each other. Some say it wasn’t long enough. One month? I was checking the amount of hateful posts online about it. All, from women. Now, let’s take it a level further, away from this “celebrity couple”. On a day to day basis, many women will never experience to security and feeling of a man who wants you to be his wife.
It is true that women want to get married in almost every good relationship. Men, not so much. When men get that feeling, they operate on it asap. I even heard one call it “an emergency”. It’s a little different for women, because they are used to waiting until the man asks or feels the same way. Trust me, very few women can drag a man to an altar who is NOT ready.
Will you really ever get to know someone? Couples have been together for years 20 or more, and have divorced. Couples marry and meet in days and stay married for decades. When I hear folks say they “need time” they are just looking for somebody to mess up to prove why they stay single. It’s called sabotage. Most find what they are looking for.
With that said, there is no time limit for stuff in life. Except, waffles need to be toasted 3-5 minutes.
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It depends, I want a November wedding so, unless we met the previous Nov, probably not going down, but Joann Rosario and Cory Condrey met and got married in less than a year. I think its possible, but for me it will depend on where I am in life.
I agree it depends where you are in life.
Women are used to letting men string them along for years with the “I’m not ready yet” trick. That is why many of them are making such hateful comments.
People often disagree with me on this but if two people are in their late 20s or beyond and are not ready to tie the knot after one year, then they’re just not that into each other. I’m not saying they must be married within the first year but they should both be planning to take that step very soon after. (Not after an additional 2, 3 or 5 year period…) I think men know that they won’t ever marry some women but drag them along until they meet the one they actually want. Then you know what happens to the long-term girlfriend… Months after the breakup, she gets to watch him get engaged to some chick who refused to wait for years.
cosign BB
I used to be one of those “it takes time!” with regards to marriage and the like. That was because I operated under the assumption that all men are hiding something.
But now, I believe that most people, men or women, show you their quality (or lack thereof) fairly quickly. There’s no way to know a person completely, unless they choose to show you all sides of them. Not to say there aren’t duplicitous men, but I’ve decided to trust my intuition and assume that he shows me who he is. If he’s keeping secrets, there’s nothing I can do about it (other than acknowledge the signs and act accordingly). Going the way of Sherlock Holmes with every individual is a waste of energy, as is analysis paralysis.
I agree with BB – mature people know if they’re heading towards marriage. I’m not sure what you know at 2,3,5 years that you don’t know at one year (other than someone’s dragging their feet) or even less, in some instances.
Women, in particular, ignore the signs/get suspicious because we try to give folk all kinds of “benefit of the doubt” or thinking “he’s just ackin’ right for the moment, he’ll show his true colors soon.” Men ignore signs as well, especially for very attractive women.
If we all feel this way, then why are so many women in dead end relationships?
I sure would.
I could “date” a man for the rest of my life and still not know everything about him, and it won’t guarantee that he won’t change on me. I don’t need to date for a long period of time to know if a man is right for me or not.
I concur with BB, and to Janice – because they haven’t learned yet what BB said.
The old folks use to say, when I man wants something (you know what) he will not wait to get it. Yeah he might weigh pros/cons, what he’ll have to give up vs/ what intrinsic value it will offer, might even try to see if he can get a hook up/on the cheap. But if he needs that quality 50″plasma in his living room by Superbowl, and it is playoffs he will get it done.
I so agree with ‘BB’. I met someone when I was 12 years old and we kept in contact with each other until I was 27 years old (you do the math) promising each other that we would one day be together and get married. He recently called me and told me that he sees me as a “very, very, very, good friend”! Go figure! Now he’s happy in a relationship with someone else. So I agree, most men know if they will marry someone within the first six months as opposed to “15 years”.
“Will you ever really get to know someone?” That’s the most important question here. And to answer that question, I would say…No, you will never get to know someone 100%. Especially with the recent rise of murder-suicides I’ve seen with husbands killing their wives and their children, I am convinced that you will never get to fully know a person wether its been five years or five months. For me, I was fortunate enough to have that third eye called my mother whose main mission in life was to weed out the disasters in her daughters’ lives. She can smell crap from two miles away and she did a good job too; she was never wrong…not once!!! If only I had listen to her!!! However, as I’ve gotten a tad bit older (approaching my 30’s…damn), I’ve realized that I have to start separating the weak from the obsolete myself! Momma is not going to always be around. On top of that, I dont have time to waste! It’s either your going to show me what your made of or, you can gets the stepping. He’s going to have to get right or get left! So, I would definitly marry within a year…if dude comes correct! Im not a psychic nor am I a fortune teller so he can come correct now and be a royal mess later. I can’t do nothing bout that! If it takes a little bit longer, I dont mind that too because its really not about having a man string you along. Marriage is a scary thing, so making sure that your doing the right thing may take a little longer than a year but that’s the only amount of rope I’m giving you and then you’ve hung yourself!
So far as you don’t fornicate and have sex with the man and get pregnant out of wedlock before getting married like what Joann Rosario (Condrey) and Corey Condrey (CoCo Brother) did, then it is good to get married in less than a year if it is God’s will for you to do so. So Joann Rosario (Condrey) and Corey Condrey (CoCo Brother) marriage is not a good example to use in these instance as born again christian marriages unless if you are talking about people who are not christians and they fornicate and sleep around with men and get pregnant out of wedlock before getting married in less than a year. So Joann Rosario (Condrey) and Corey Condrey (CoCo Brother) did not set a good example as christians by fornincating and having sex with each other before marriage and getting pregnant out of wedlock before they got married in 31st December 2008. So Joann Rosario (Condrey) and Corey Condrey (CoCo Brother) should repent of their sins of sexual immorality and stop misleading the baby christians, because anyone who Is fully grown as a born again christian will know the bible which is the word of God and cannot be misled by people who claim to do the work of Jesus Christ but are disobedient to the word of God and they are hypocrites and their life styles do not glorify God.
And Joann Rosario (Condrey) and Corey Condrey (CoCo Brother) has put on their myspace now talking about their baby who they have given birth to already some months ago because the baby was already conceived before they married. It looks like Joann Rosario (Condrey) and Corey Condrey (CoCo Brother) married in a hurry because of them having sex with each other and getting pregnant out of wedlock. And So Joann Rosario (Condrey) and Corey Condrey (CoCo Brother) should repent to God and be Honest and Tell the whole truth about how they met, and what happened before they got married and stop telling it and making it look like they did everything before they got married according to the word of God and making it look like everything is God’s doing. So Joann Rosario (Condrey) and Corey Condrey (CoCo Brother) should also Tell the Whole Truth also about their baby conceived out of wedlock and was born some months ago to the people of God who they minister to instead of trying to cover up or hide their sins from the people of God about Joann rosario getting pregnant with corey condrey before they married.
And So Joann Rosario (Condrey) and Corey Condrey (CoCo Brother) should repent and stop sinning intentionally so that they don’t end up disgracing the body of Christ that is the church since they claim to do the work of our God Jesus Christ. And the Word of God in the Bible says repent and stop sinning intentionally and GO AND SIN NO MORE. So this is not a hate message but it is about being True and Honest to God and God’s people that is the Body of Christ and that is the Church of God. And the bible says “And you shall know the Truth and the Truth shall set you free”. So the Bible says we should always know the Truth according to the Word of God and we should be honest and tell the truth and not lie, and the Truth which is the word of God shall set us FREE!!!
“THE TRUTH SHALL SET YOU FREE” you are so right! Because as born again christian marriages Joann Rosario (Condrey) and Corey Condrey (CoCo Brother) marriage is not a good example to use in these instance as born again christian marriages unless if you are talking about people who are not christians and they fornicate and sleep around with men and get pregnant out of wedlock before getting married in a rush in less than a year. And because you sinned and fell as born again christians you have to be honest and tell the truth according to the word of God and the word of God in the bible says if you sin and fall repent and say you were wrong because you sinned, and so don’t try to cover your sins up like nothing happened and make sin look like it is alright so that you don’t encourage people to follow your footsteps in sinning against God. The grace and love of God is there to forgive those who repent of their sins and they are true and honest in living their lives unto God and stop sinning intentionally. The word of God says we should fear and love God and live true and honest lives unto God. God’s Love and Blessings to you all!
I agree with Alex. Because as born again christians you shouldn’t be dating people like how people in the World just date anyone just for the purpose of dating and fornicationg and having intimate relationships outside of marriage. But as born again christians you should first of all pray and ask God to give you the person He wants you to marry. So therefore after fasting and praying and seeking God for the person you want to marry and when God provide the person He wants you to marry according to the will of God, then you can now proceed with the process of marriage according to the word of God after getting God’s approval to go ahead with the marriage. So therefore if it is the will of God and if God tells you to marry the person he wants you to marry in less than a year then you can do so. You should not just be dating anyone that God has not told you that he/she is the person that God wants you to marry according to His will, and the word of God says no intimate and sexual relationship before marriage. The word of God in the bible says present your bodies and lives as a living sacrifice, Holy, and Acceptable unto God, And since born again christians are the temple of the Holy Spirit we have to live Holy and Pure lives unto our God Jesus Christ says the word of God. God Bless you all!
Yes as born again christians you shouldn’t be dating people like how people in the World just date anyone just for the purpose of dating and fornicationg and having intimate relationships outside of marriage. But as born again christians you should first of all pray and ask God to give you the person He wants you to marry. So therefore after fasting and praying and seeking God for the person you want to marry and when God provide the person He wants you to marry according to the will of God, then you can now proceed with the process of marriage according to the word of God after getting God’s approval to go ahead with the marriage. So therefore if it is the will of God and if God tells you to marry the person he wants you to marry in less than a year then you can do so. You should not just be dating anyone that God has not told you that he/she is the person that God wants you to marry according to His will, and the word of God says no intimate and sexual relationship before marriage. The word of God in the bible says present your bodies and lives as a living sacrifice, Holy, and Acceptable unto God, And since born again christians are the temple of the Holy Spirit we have to live Holy and Pure lives unto our God Jesus Christ says the word of God. God Bless you all!
To “THE TRUTH SHALL SET YOU FREE”:
“THE TRUTH SHALL SET YOU FREE” please can you CLARIFY what you said that: “And Joann Rosario (Condrey) and Corey Condrey (CoCo Brother) has put on their myspace now talking about their baby who they have given birth to already some months ago because the baby was already conceived before they married. So Joann Rosario (Condrey) and Corey Condrey (CoCo Brother) should also Tell the Whole Truth also about their baby conceived out of wedlock and was born some months ago.” Because I can see on Joann Rosario (Condrey) Myspace she said that she is giving birth to her baby in February 2010?? So “THE TRUTH SHALL SET YOU FREE” please give us a CLARIFICATION of what you said. And I want to let you and everyone know that I am not disrespecting the true Prophet Samuel and the Word of God from Him about Joann Rosario getting pregnant with Corey Condrey (CoCo Brother) out of wedlock and I am not saying that this is not true but what I am saying is that you have to CLARIFY what I am asking you to CLARIFY. And from what I read from another website, if it is true that Joann Rosario miscarried the first baby she became pregnant with Corey Condrey (Coco Brother) out of wedlock before they got married on 31st December 2008 then we should all pray for them. So if so does it mean that on Joann Rosario (Condrey) Myspace the baby she is saying she is due to give birth to in February 2010 is her second pregnancy with Corey Condrey (CoCo Brother) and so therefore this time this second pregnancy the baby was conceived after they got married?