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By Guest Blogger, Wendy Coakley-Thompson
Many of us don’t need CNN telling us that times are tough today.
People are losing their jobs in record numbers, and those who are still employed are thankful but simultaneously skittish at the precarious nature of being on the bubble. Of course, human nature being what it is, some in positions of power are using the recession to show off their abusive sides, emboldened by the slim likelihood of you leaving gainful employment in a down economy.
You all know these bosses: The hissy-fit thrower. The micromanager. The difficult-to-please tyrant. Or [insert yours here]. We all agree that you need employment, and sometimes, taking aggravation from your boss falls under the “other duties as assigned” rubric. Here are a few mental strategies you can use so you can do your job without catching a case.
Recognize Your Worth
It is a common fact: Women do not realize their worth… as a consumer, in relationships, and certainly not in the workplace. Many of us don’t even negotiate for a salary. If you don’t believe me, check it out here. This must stop with you. Know that you have worth, and convey that at all times. Whether it’s clicking your heels together and whistling a happy tune, or devising a mantra that you repeat when that boss is working the one good nerve you’ve got left, you must let the awareness of what you bring to the table manifest itself in physical deportment.
Maintain Your Dignity
As tempting as it might be to channel your inner DMX, your must draw from the well of dignity inside you. There is no shame in acting in deference to the boss’s position, no matter how insane the person in that position may act. Remember, though, that, even though they might be above you in some dusty org chart, they are bosses – not superiors. Only God, or Allah, or the Universe is superior to you.
Know When to Say When
At the end of the day, you must take care of you. You are of no use to anyone if your mind is fried and you are cowed from a boss’s abuse. Sometimes, even the most patient person has just got to break out. I recently worked for an insecure, menopausal, diabetic. While each attribute alone is benign, the three together comprised the Trifecta of crazy. Even though she rode me like Seabiscuit, I recognized my worth and behaved with dignity. Until one day, she went too far and flicked my Bitch Switch. So, instead of acquiring my very own criminal record, I resigned. This is why it is also important to have funds in reserve, for just such occasions.
In short, you must always remember that YOU are Job One. Knowing that you didn’t compromise your worth and core values for a paycheck will sustain you in these hard times… and in the good times that are sure to come.
Author Wendy Coakley-Thompson is the DC Publishing Industry Examiner at Examiner.com. Check her out at http://www.examiner.com/x-6658-DC-Publishing-Industry-Examiner.