My Let Go Plan: Tired of Being Single!

By Guest Blogger, Anastasia Simpson

I was asked to write about my experience as I work on a new method to bring me the relationship I want.  I’m not the best writer, however, I felt it could help people who are stuck.

I’m a 32 year old woman, educated, work as a legal secretary, had a long term relationship that ended recently, live alone, somewhat struggling financially like most of us are in this economy, but still making it.  I don’t drink, I don’t party much anymore, and I am basically at home, with family, or an occasional event.  I’m like most women out there just living life best she can.

Fact is, I don’t want to go out anymore.  Things just feel worse, seem harder when I go out.  I’m not just going out to have fun alone.  Been doing that since I was clubbing at 18!  Let’s be real.  I rather spend my weekend in the arms of a loving man, watching a movie, cooking a meal together, or just being “alone” together–he do his thing, and I do my mine.  I am going out to meet my husband.  So, imagine how hard it is everytime I go out to come out and zilch, nada, zip.   My friends are slowly starting to agree with me after their own denial that we should “have fun” until we meet the one.  And that we “can’t look or we never find”.   I’m sorry, but that’s bullshit!  I met a lot of women who met a man WHILE looking.

Anyway I decided not to fight against this anymore.  Somehow I figured out that I don’t have control over that wonderful man coming into my life, but I can control MYSELF.  That is why I bought the 9 Tuesdays: Let Go Plan a few months ago.  When it came on the blog, I first wanted to see what folks were saying before I purchased it.  Then, I did, and didn’t use it until now.  It sat in my room for 2 months!

Then another one of those looooong weekends, I looked at it, started reading and made a commitment.  What I was tripping over was, here was a tool I could use, and I didn’t want to use it.  Almost, like I didn’t want it to work.  Like I wanted to be single!  I’ve always felt I was battling another part of me, a part of me that wants to hold me down in life, while the other, smaller part in me, keeps me afloat.  I normally listen to the former.  But this time, I did the right thing.

I’m in my 6th Tuesday.  Wish I would’ve have started blogging about this earlier, but I was really going through alot of emotions.   I emailed Maryann, just the other day when I ran into a “mystery” man at a charity event in NYC.   He is well known in his industry, successful, and known to be a good catch around these parts.   I met this man late last year for the first time.   I lost his number, and I didn’t give him mine.   We met at a similiar event because he sits on the Board of Directors of a major company.  Anyway, I was so down because it wasn’t likely I’d meet him again.

But on my 2nd Tuesday of the treatments, I did.  He recognized me right away, we talked, and went to dinner right after.  We talk everyday, we are so in sync.  I actually think this is the first man in a long time where he asks me questions, offers to help me, shares his thoughts and vulnerabilities.   I always found myself teaching men what little I knew.   He IS more advanced than I am emotionally, and in almost every other area, but the kitchen    This weekend, I had a group date with us and his sister’s husband.  (I think I am being evaluated and I like it!)  I was even over his father’s house this weekend for Father’s Day.

Whew.  I am continuing the treatments because I am not clear on what this all means that’s why I called him the “mystery” man.  It’s happening pretty fast, but I was told that would happen.  But let me put it this way. I have not been on a real date in 1 year, haven’t had sex in TWO because I wasn’t meeting any men I liked.  That right there should tell you some powerful shifts are going on in my world.  And I’m glad I had took a chance to do something different.

I will continue to blog about my experience.

Anastasia lives in NYC.  For more information about her, just keep reading. From time to time, women will blog about their experiences using the Let Go Plan.

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