I had to bring this article back up considering there’s exactly 1 more week till Inauguration Day. Once that’s over, we’re going to be in for even more interesting times. Enjoy!
This article in Salon is the type of stuff that keeps women mired in confusion. It says Michelle Obama was this big career driven women who now has to play mommy to little girls as First Lady, as if it’s the most despised, degenerate job on the planet. Here’s some:
At the point that her husband decided to run for president, Michelle was not working just to make ends meet; she had a career to which she was committed….How will Michelle Obama feel as she becomes what she has long resisted — an extension of her husband?
Can Michelle get a break? Can women get a break, period? For Michelle to be working on her “career” plan while her husband is President is ridiculous. It’s also naive to assume because she’s staying “at home” that she is going to be just an extension of her husband. If so, then what’s wrong with that? Perhaps, American women can learn how to better balance their lives at home and at work and keep better-fed, nurtured husbands and marriages. Michelle willfully chose her role.
The Associated Press said that “she is not interested in shaping policy or reserving a seat for herself at her husband’s decision-making table. She prefers, at least for now, to focus on easing the transition for Malia, 10, and Sasha, 7….” Maybe, Michelle’s willingness to be her husband’s helpmate will inspire other women with families to adjust their self-centered goals for the greater good, including their own peace of mind. Here’s something else:
But the day that Hillary Clinton dropped out of the race, the bar for conversation about Michelle dropped precipitously. Suddenly Fox News was calling her “Obama’s baby mama,” and Michelle was on “The View,” jawing about her bargain dress and pantyhose, breakfast foods and childcare…..Obama presented herself precisely as she needed to in order to be digested by the American people: as a daughter, a sister, a wife, a mother. And definitely not as a successful and independent American working woman.
Being this “independent American working woman” is a lie and a myth. It leaves many women alone, childless and not by choice, overworked, bitter, and resentful that they have missed their chance to be married or have children. If they’re married, they’ve been lied to that they can have it all and do both. Very few women accomplish this. It’s not the norm as the media depicts. This American myth is what has caused the highest divorce numbers in history. Women from all over the world and various cultures know it’s a myth and laugh at us, while they themselves work to live, instead of live to work. While they enjoy their families, their status as intellectuals and mothers, and the respect from their communities. I’ve traveled through Europe and parts of the Caribbean, and can say women in other countries seem far more happier than American women.
It’s articles like these that keep “independent American working women” confused under a smoky hazy of doing what’s right. They end up like hamsters in a cage running, running, for no one at the end of the day, not even themselves. Just running to fit this myth. I think it would be nice to see a more nurturing, feminine image of the Black woman, instead of the superwoman-workhorse aka “strong black woman” that has been fed to us for generations. So, Michelle, hon, go be mommy to your daughters and bake all the damn Pillsbury cookies you want.
Let them eat their hearts out.