Men Who Have Issues With Money Have Issues

A couple of weeks ago I wrote a blog about what’s wrong with liking a man with money.  After that blog, I had a conversation with James, a male friend of mine about this very topic.  He said he believed there was nothing wrong for a woman desiring a man who has money or is wealthy because men desire women who are pretty and/or good in bed.  These things don’t mean you will get it, but it is always nice to keep the bar high. At least when you drop it, you know you are, and can make the best decision at that time.

So, I surmised that any man who has a problem with a woman desiring a man with money has a serious issue with life, period.  I say if you encounter a man who gives you the cold shoulder because of this, run away as fast as you can.  He is a man living life on the defensive end.  People who live like this are always trying to deflect problems, situations, are usually emotionally unavailable because they can’t speak their true feelings about something without running away, and are always trying to avoid being taken advantage of.  Anyone who believes they can get taken advantage of deserves to get taken advantage of.  Let that marinate for a minute.

Men have their criteria has mentioned above.  Of course, we all know, that is not all a man wants—beauty and sex–he wants more or the “package”.  So, we should all know that most women don’t want a man who just has money, but has other traits to offer.  It is just a part of her desire, not the complete desire.

A man who is playing life on the offensive end is playing to win at life.  He is not worried about what your ‘yappin about.  He sees “having a man with money” as a moniker to be more ambitious.  Here’s what James said, “If she’s telling me she wants a dude with money.  That just makes me want to earn more.  Not just for her, but for me.  It’s about ambition and I want a woman who can remind me of all the money that’s out there. How can that be bad?”  He knows that we can all get complacent at times.  He also said he wants a woman who is very attractive and can maintain her beauty and body as she ages.  Most women would think he is shallow.  But another way of thinking about it is as a good way to maintain your health and weight.  It will be a reminder and reason to stay in shape and keep yourself up, even if you settle down.  There is a reason why people join gyms and work out groups to be motivated by others.  They partner with others who have the same goals and vision.  No need to berate anyone, change them, or anything like that.  Just be.

Finally, men (and women, too, but this is about men) who live their lives free from their ego and fears are men to associate with.  Most alpha-females are attracted to men outside the box, outside the matrix.  They want a man who operates and thinks unlike other men.  Enter the alpha-male.  He listens, but he doesn’t judge.  He goes more by actions, than by words.  He doesn’t run away at the first sign of something he doesn’t agree with.  He’s open to challenges, but he’s not a fool.  He lives life without inhibitions and preconditions.  He is free, and allows others to feel free too.  And if you’re a man reading this last paragraph and shaking your head like “yeah, that’s me.”  It ain’t.