Matchmaking Agencies Are Not Just For White People

Last month we brought up the idea in AlphaCandy, or question, rather:  “Why don’t more black women use matchmaking agencies?”  Most are free to women.  Seems like a no-brainer!  And we are not talking about online dating sites.  That is so 2005.

We got several answers and most of it had to do with insecurity and lack of information.  As you can see from certain matchmaking shows on TV, you and the next woman are in the same boat.  They are not your competitor.  They are your peer.  Your competitor is actually the other women in that man’s life!

You also don’t need a head to toe makeover to get with a matchmaker.  A simple wash and set (if it’s your own hair), a nice bath, and cute little number should give you the confidence to knock on the door.  It doesn’t mean you are exactly “in” as many have screening processes, but you are one step closer to your goal. Which is?

Well, my dearies.  The men with this agencies have to pay a fee.  This is no 2-1 for special, either.  It is expensive, but affordable for the right suitor.  Even in ancient times, men paid dowries to meet women and marry them.  It is only to be expected.  These days without a gatekeeper like a matchmaker, most men can buy your time with a $79.80 dinner.

Raise those expectations or you’ll find yourself standing alone in the playground!

To read the AlphaCandy interview with VIP LIFE owner and founder Lisa Clampitt and why she thinks “nothing is more important than finding the right relationship”, click here.


  1. K.C. says:

    Currently, I’m working directly with one matchmaking agency that is targeted to an African-American/Latino demographic. I’m also a passive member of three other agencies.

    It’s my first experience, and so it’s taking a bit of time; admittedly, longer than I’d like. I have a short but firm set of requirements for any man I am introduced to or matched with. Sometimes your matchmaker tells you things you don’t necessarily want to hear, and you have to either humbly accept her counsel or firmly but respectfully disagree, depending on the issue. But I think it’s a better way to go than online dating. It’s more discreet and personalized.

    I perform due diligence on various matchmaking agencies I encounter via Google searches. Most are owned and operated by Caucasians, and the models (alleged customers) usually are as well. When I inquire about their services, I’m very upfront in presenting who I am and who I am looking for. Some of them simply cannot accommodate black women who want to be matched with black men. Still, I’m not giving up! 🙂

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