Comments on: Loyal Or Faithful, Choose One

By: Loving a bottom B

Loving a bottom B — Thu, 19 Feb 2009 00:33:27 +0000

Good post. I am all about that loyalty because its a stronger then being faithful. Faithfulness is a part or can be part of being Loyal, however, Loyal is not a part of being faithful.

THC was on point with her analysis.

By: Incognegro

Incognegro — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 20:46:57 +0000

Faitfulness = not cheating

Loyalty = sticking around

Most men are loyal but not faithful.

at least the ones I know.

By: Rocky

Rocky — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 18:18:03 +0000

Some would say oddly enough…but I will simply say THC is right on point.

I believe I can be Loyal to my women because she is Faithful to me. She also is the mother of my children which gives me an obligation of loyalty. However my ability to be faithful is strained due to whats missing in our eternal struggle to make things as they once were.

However as THC says, a man who can go ANYWHERE and do ANYTHING with his other half tends to be not only Loyal but Faithful to a fault. She accepts him and he accepts her.

However nothing tested is nothing gained.

By: The Hooker Chronicles

The Hooker Chronicles — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 17:48:21 +0000

My “primary partner” and I had this conversation a million times in the duration of our relationship and my time as an escort, and it was IMPERATIVE that he understood the difference between Loyalty and Faithfulness. Luckily for me, he found a role in my career that allowed him to be a part of it (My photographer and web site assistant)

Loyalty is the reason why he helps screen my clients….
Loyalty is the reason why he gives me tips on my image….
Loyalty is why I’m never insecure or jealous and neither is he…

Loyalty over faithfulness will cut about 60% of the headaches that most people get when dealing with regular relationships.

We go to strip-clubs together, we swing together, we watch porn together, and this is the reason why he’s so attached to me, and I to him! He really as no reason to sneak and cheat, all he has to do is ask!

But that’s just me…..

By: Maryann

Maryann — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 17:28:02 +0000

Thanks, RA!

You are right. It is not “faithful” that was my try at sarcasm. Oh well.

By: Ra

Ra — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 17:19:37 +0000

Let me start by saying I’m a definite fan of the blog. I read Sex and The Single Sister a good while back on a flight to Vegas. Great read.

Now for today’s post, I’m a little confused. I get your take on loyal, but not so much on faithful. Sounds like they both cheat/stray, loyal just chooses to maintain the 80 over the 20. They way I’m reading this, sounds like faithful cheats/strays in an attempt to get out of a current situation. I don’t see how your explanation labels a person as faithful.

Seems like faithful and loyal would be somewhat intertwined, as opposed to a person/relationship being one or the other. You hear stories all the time about a couple who had been married for 25 – 30 yrs, then something changes, and decide to split. Does that mean that couple was never loyal to one another? I don’t think you can be loyal without also being faithful. You can’t stick by someone through thick and thin without having the belief (faith) that this person is truly the one for you, even if things change in the end.

I get the point that there are 2 different types of relationships. I just don’t think faithfulness gives a good description of the second.

By: Darling

Darling — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 16:59:40 +0000

@3rd exactly, rarely do they ever work at the same time, ALL the time.

By: Darling

Darling — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 16:58:14 +0000

yeah u can have both but I think u need to decide before a relationship starts what’s important to you based on your values because we all want both, but if we lean towards faithfulness, then we can work on being loyal and vice vera. People are not perfect and relationships change. And no one is ever anything 100% of the time.

By: geegee

geegee — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 16:51:51 +0000

I would have to say I’m more loyal but I’m also faithful as I’ve never cheated and very emotional in my feelings about love. Loyal because after 14 years with my ex hubby when he cheated I still wanted to stay with him and make our marriage work, he didn’t and I didn’t fight him on it but I let him know I was there. Lucky I’ve found love again and I’m still loyal to him and faithful too!

By: 3rddeadline

3rddeadline — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 16:46:08 +0000

D-

Actually, my original comment was cut-off. I was going to say that I did not understand that part in quotes.

Loyalty trumps on occassion and faithfulness trumps on occassion. Both are needed, neither is better than the other.