Love Is The Last Thing You Need…
Why does society applaud a girl who falls for a guy’s “big blue eyes” yet denounces one who chooses a man with a “big green bankroll”?
That’s how the description on Amazon begins for Smart Girls Marry Money: How Women Have Been Duped Into The Romantic Dream and How They’re Paying For It and I love it.
The authors Elizabeth Ford and Dr. Daniela Drake are talking about something women hate on each other for, and men want us to forget–money. What’s more economical? Falling in love with the bus boy and there are no demands on big dreams and the big life or a young hottie marrying her sugar daddy for better or worse? Neither is right or wrong, but only one wins. In an interview with AOL Ford says:
No one ever says that a man is a beauty-digger because he wants a beautiful girl. Even though women are in the workforce at record numbers, we’re not making the money that men are making. Men are making three times more money over their lifetime than women are. So why isn’t it valuable for a beautiful woman to look out for her security at the end of her life? Of women who are alone at retirement age, one in five end up at the poverty level. So we realized, “Whoa, what’s a girl to do?”
If a woman is going to go this route, she has to start young at 16, attending networking events at her school, local college, researching the young boys with promise who are going the Ivy League or celebrity athlete route. This way she can raise her chances (not guarantee!) to be married by 30 to a wealthy man. But at 16, a girl has to be in another whole level than her peers to do that. With that said, I wonder if the advice these authors are giving is in vain, preaching to the choir sort of stuff. Most women have already missed the boat on this one.
But I like this line: Earning power is afterall a reflection of his character and value. Big, blue yes? Not so much. Ha, true in its most literal sense.
What I would have liked to hear more about is this post-feminist slant that suggests women have lost it all because of feminism. I’ve always agreed women had been duped into believing feminist banter would save them from lonely, isolated lives and being seen as only sex objects. Ring the alarm. Uhm, it’s actually worse now, but the debate is that women now have a “choice”. Yeah, ok.
But I digress. Smart Girls Marry Money doesn’t go far enough for me. What it really wants to say is women are the authors of their own demise, have been fooled, and their eggs are paying for it. Let’s move beyond calling women who marry money as gold-diggers. It’s a word used by broke women to hold other women back, like the word “desperate”.
Doesn’t push enough buttons, but it’s a nice hustle.