I don’t believe in guilt, I believe in living on impulse as long as you never intentionally hurt another person, and don’t judge people in your life. I think you should live completely free.—Angelina Jolie
When I first read this quote, the word that stood out to me was “free”. To feel complete freedom in how you communicate, live on a daily basis and express yourself to others. I know, I know, but no, you don’t. Lots of folks think they are living like this, but they aren’t.
They listen to what they are afraid of, doubtful of, and meet other people’s expectations of what should be done. As I sit here and I write this, I have such a huge feeling of freedom in my chest. When I have this feeling, I feel like I can do almost anything. At all. It comes and goes. But what if the feeling stayed? That new movie with Jim Carey out now is called, Yes Man. About a man who starts saying yes to everything that comes his way. He was living (at least if it’s based on the book) a pretty ordinary, structured life of saying no and being safe, until one day he changed that. You have to read the book or the movie to see what happens.
The movie Seven Pounds with Wil Smith and Rosario Dawson is also a good example. Here was a man who brought so much happiness and aliveness to this woman, but wore the same suit everyday, she didn’t know where he lived, or anything at all about him. When she gave up trying to fit him into a square peg, and asking all the expected questions and focused on the joy he brought her at the moment, it’s when her life begins.
There’s a freedom to saying yes. Even when you are in pain, there’s freedom in saying yes to that, too. Even when you don’t have money to pay your rent, there’s freedom to saying yes, to that, too. Instead of saying “no, no, no, I don’t want this.” It confines you more to the sameness. You may lose it all, but if you lose your freedom, you’re really done.
Emotional freedom. Who “woulda thunk” an alpha female like Angelina Jolie, as beautiful and rich as she is, would want to adopt a boatload of orphans, steal somebody’s husband, and still look “fresh”. What a life. You can’t plan that. It just happens. It’s not because of the money you have, it’s who you are. There are tons of rich people, who are in jail, afraid to live life on their own terms. Married and miserable. Single and miserable. You get the picture.
When you tell him how you really feel, tell her you really dig her, take the job you really want, then your life can take off. Even if they don’t agree, you keep it moving, letting people be who they are. For example, I just sent an email to a business associate last week that I shouldn’t. My old self would’ve thought about it everyday and rehearsing what I should’ve wrote instead, if at all. But I didn’t. I let it go. I didn’t get the response I wanted, and it was fine. Glad I still sent it. An alpha female is about being free. That’s all.
(Free Teleclass tomorrow night on “Let Go” plan that starts on January 20th. Spots almost filled).