It’s in response to the HAM of a video she had out yesterday complaining that her divorce money will not give her the lifestyle she was accustomed to before she married. I think she’s confused, she lived more of a hustle than a “lifestyle”.
You got a problem.
A problem many women have, especially Black women, and that is not knowing when to let go. We understand that you are over 40, a single mother, an actress that had to hustle from one role to the other, only to find that one of her most consistent TV roles was cut off. Back to the drawing board. Then comes Mr. Prime Minister, handsome, rich, seduces you, you seduce him. You marry. You smile. Then all hell breaks loose. It happens.
In the best of situations, your husband is like you, lost, broken, where the two of you can see each other faults and apply healing balm to each other wounds (literally, with your bite marks). In your case, it’s not that way. You both are from different planets. You and him were never meant to be. It is possible that you, or he, had forced this marriage to make it look “right” or look “good”. He had something you needed, and you had something he needed. Was there love? Maybe not. What do you think?
As I conclude, remember that what you fight to get in life you fight to keep. Aren’t you tired of fighting? Not him, but your fear to be alone, another single black woman with kids. You handled this all wrong listening to your American girlfriends advise you. A Caribbean woman would’ve told you how to keep the money and the marriage, not the man necessarily. Listen, lots of Carib women stay married for the benefits while they lead separate and happy lives from their spouses. As long as the resources are there, all is good. Americans make this whole ish too complicated.
If I were you, I’d drag my feet on the divorce. There’s no money in it for you. Just keep chillin on the beach and let him stress over the details. What’s the rush in going back to the Hollywood hustle? What you should’ve done is get your marriage right or be done with it in privacy. You should’ve skipped all the media interviews. You should’ve stayed in Turks & Caicos. Built an orphanage, made those T&K women like you. Yes. Set up a school, catch the eye of a richer and better man and moved on. You were supposed to use this whole T & K thing to change your image and give you leverage.
But you listened to your “girls”, I’m sure. And isolated yourself and like many American women, lost yourself–again.
See you at the club.