Ladies, Stop Second Guessing Your Man

By Guest Blogger Mila

Doubts? About my man? Never.


All of us, even the most confident Alphanistas, have doubts about our relationships at times. We can drive ourselves mad questioning little things. However, it is not ok to snoop. I know some ladies who disagree and think snooping in their man’s email or Facebook account once in awhile is ok. They just casually search through messages and pictures, digging for dirt.

I don’t think that’s ok. Even if you know his passwords snooping like that is still a breach of privacy, and it’s just downright low. And yes, if he has his email password auto-saved to your computer, it still isn’t ok for you to log in. Beware, if you start snooping it’ll become a bad habit, and you’ll find that you have to do it more often to keep peace of mind. Even if your man is completely innocent, you may start to doubt little things like if that friend is really just a friend. That’s a sign that you’re going crazy.

It’s never ok to snoop around because you wouldn’t want it to happen to you. How would you feel if you knew your man was searching through all your private messages and emails? Plus if you go looking for dirt, you may just find some. Then what? If your man is up to no good, it will eventually surface. You don’t have to go looking for it. Alphas don’t snoop. We keep our heads up and stay confident. If you have doubts about your man, confront him. He’ll tell you straight up. If he’s lying, you’ll find out.

Check out this performance from a poetry slam. She puts it perfectly.

Snooping and second-guessing leads to trouble and even self-doubt. So just leave it alone and just live life freely without doubts. If you’re going to do any type of digging, dig for gold not dirt.

Mila is in her twenties and lives and works in New York City. She loves writing, running, and good music. If there’s a dance party, she’s there.

One comment

  1. sarah says:

    it is so important to never let your partner turn you into a psychotic version of yourself. Love makes us go crazy-it’s true; if you do find yourself going a lil’ nuts, you need to sit down with your guy and discuss the trust issues you have out loud. Tell him what you need to regain his trust, or tell him what you need from him to give you peace of mind. You’ll never be vulnerable and open to your partner if you’re hiding things from him.

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