Hey all, I want to leave you with this today! I read it today again and I got goosebumps. Enjoy this classic.
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Behind Every Great Man, There is A Woman. Behind Every Great Woman, There Is A Man.
I realized that some of the best blogs (and they will go nameless) on the web that are run by women usually have a man in the background, usually making it all come together like a fluid, flawless machine, mostly on the technical side, but sometimes not. This “svengali” thing reaches far and wide.
Let’s give credit where credit is due. Sometimes, a woman needs some “man help”. There’s just something very distinct about male/female communication that is often missed when same sexes work together. A dominant male can find it very hard to communicate to another dominate male and have to “fall back” now and again. But whether he’s dominant or passive, he can use all parts of himself with a woman.
To take it up a couple of notches, some of the greatest women in the world owe their success to husbands, daddies, managers and the like. A man who is as interested as you are in your self development and success for the “takeover” is an inspirational and powerful force in your life. And he’s not your big mouthed boyfriend with all the ideas.
Some of the most important female acts in music were shaped and formed by men—Matthew Knowles (Beyonce), Quincy Jones (everybody), Puffy (Blige), Biggie (Lil Kim) and the list goes on. A svengali is a “genius” usually male who is unseen, unheard, and pulls the strings. He’s the one who takes the greatness of the idea or talent a woman may have and slice, chop and package it up for global dominance. Everybody has some kind of talent, but few know what to do with it. A svengali can fix that, but he needs a willing mind. A woman who can listen to guidance, has the ingredients and let’s the svengali stir the pot bringing it to a sweet, filling concoction.
A svengali can smell talent 5 miles away. He’s drawn to it. Fresh meat, he calls it. A svengali tells you who you are and you become it. He defines himself by the women he’s “made”. Together, he and his muse make lots of money and gain influence over the masses. Though the svengalis I mentioned are hi-profile, a traditional svengali hardly likes the spotlight as he wants all credit to go to his creation. To be a svengali, a man should become an expert in an area of interest and look for a female who will embody that. If he’s into music, look for your Janet. If he’s into politics, look for your Condi. If he’s into sports, look for your Danica. If he’s into media, look for your Oprah? You get the point.
There’s also something about the right svengali. Webster’s dictionary defines it from its traditional novelist roots: a person who manipulates or exerts excessive control over another. The dictionary version is a little exaggerated. He’s soothing, he’s focused, and almost never sexual. Almost. Having sex with the svengali can happen especially in the entertainment biz, but why complicate things? You need your svengali focused on the business, not you. It’s kind of cool if your svengali has a boring wife at home (who he sexes regularly, because a sexless svengali is not at his best) and can live his dreams through his muse. If you do have sex, it can be explosive.
At times, you may marry your svengali (hello, Diana Ross!), and that’s nice. But make sure you get that money first.
If we have to choose between working alone, which for many is the case, then it can be a lonely and solitude existence but for the occasional digital exchanges via the screen on your desk.
In addition to the company be it male or female, with or with out the sex that Heather clearly craves for, the additional brain cells are always very welcome, so put me on the list for what ever is on offer!
Alan
Edited.
Reading this was great. I have done this without knowing naturally for a while now just trying to be good or better person. However, the women I did this with just improved their overall lives by following my guidance. Furthermore, I guided them because I felt they could do better if they listened and they where female associates, partners or friends. However, while most of the women I did this with followed my advice and improved. Although I had success with young men I worked with it wasn’t at the same percentage rate as women. Pimping knowledge does have use outside of pimping and for good.
Well damn…I think I was hoping for one of these. But i wanted sex included. How do you read my mind like that? Weird…
@Bri I feel sorry for you, life must be hard, hang in there, girl!
To Me, Its Important to maintain control over everything, I cannot trust a man like that AT ALL!
@sherryberry Nothing is wrong with mixing business and pleasure when he’s all that! Gonna make that clear
I am going to be honest, I need a svengali. A man that will guide my career and make me wealthy and famous and I’m not afraid to say that- I would prefer that. I thought I had a svengali in my boss where I did my internship a few years ago but he was selfish, petty, girl crazy and weak, and I lost respect for him; it was nothing personal but I saw that his weakness was lack of focus. A svengali is supposed to keep YOU focused not the other way around. I just look forward to the day where I met that formidable and confident male figure who I always wanted in my life. I know what you said about not mixing business with pleasure but if he is attractive and single, on top of all the alpha male attributes: I don’t know if I can stay away from the allure, powerful, intelligent, confident men are definitely a weakness of mine ( if there is such a weakness,lol).
Yet another great blog.
These are one of the best business associates but make bad husbands because they are always chasing talent. I know I married one because I was once his talent. Major boo boo shoulda stayed focused on my dream.