Lately, this relationship called “it’s complicated” has been rearing its ugly head everywhere. Even on FaceBook there’s an option to check off. No longer are people checking off: single or married. They are all proud and hefty about a situation being “complicated”. It’s cute and fuzzy. It makes it look like you have somebody, when you may not. The bottom line is this: Either you are in a relationship or you are not. Complicated shish are for 15 year olds in highschool when the cute guy sent you the note he liked you but you find out he sent it to someone else and now you have to figure out who got the note first.
That’s complicated. But for grown adults, it’s way too much information. Here we have again, women lowering the bar to accommodate some guy who may or may not be that into them. Men have complicated too for that chick who he is keeping on the side, not too sure about. Well, what happened to just saying “single”. You are unmarried, so technically you are. If you are in a relationship that’s committed then you are “in a relationship”. If it’s complicated, you need to decide with that man or woman if you are going to be in a relationship or not. Kind of easy, right? Here’s some complicated situations:
- “He’s married”–Uhm, yeah, that’s pretty much it
- “It’s just sex”–So, you meet someone for a one night stand that turns into a 3 month booty call, you may hit the $4 breakfast buffet together every now and then in the morning right after the booty call, nothing special, he doesn’t call you and you rarely call him, it’s just sex, convenient and free
- “He’s married, it’s just sex, but yesterday he told me he loved me”–But he’s married, moving on….
- “She’s pregnant and she said it’s mine”–Perhaps, over a little too much Henny one night you got a little sloppy, you finally hear from the girl 6 weeks later and she’s pregnant, you meet and discuss that it may be cheaper to keep her, now you have to work out the details to keep her happy enough not to take you to family court and still have your freedom to see who you want
- “We just broke up”–Wrap yourself in Kleenex from head to toe, he isn’t coming back, at least not now, official as of first day of break up, move on, hon
None of these warrant a relationship no matter how you want to define it. If you’ve convinced yourself that it does, then fine. Just check off the right box and leave “it’s complicated” alone. Face whatever drama you have to face to get things in order. As much trouble as I get myself into not sure if I can announce to others how “complicated’ it is. With that said, I learned to keep my relationships clearly defined. It’s either black or white, in or out. What ever happened to keeping things simple?
how bout the fact that I basicly have a long distance relationship with this guy but we never officially said anything about it. we had dated before and broke up awhile ago. before he found out he was moving we almost got back together. when he found he was he told me he didn’t really want to start a relationship since it would end up being long distance. but he still loves me and I still love him. and things didn’t change all that much when he did move. we talk all the time and are very very close. anyone who knew the way we acted towards each other would definately think we are dating. but because of what he said before he move I still have doubts about what we are and even If we do have a relationship I sometimes wonder if it’s worth it because I won’t really be able to see him for a few years and he is the only person I ever dated. but I love him with all my heart and that won’t change just because I give up the chance to have something with him so I may as well comit to this. but I still have my doubts at times and I’m still not sure what exactly we are. thata complicated enough for you? and that doesn’t make it any less of a relationship and still I can say for sure “we’re dating” or anything” so there. relationships aren’t so black and white. there is more than just single taken.
LMAO@ “Wrap yourself in Kleenex from head to toe”
Cry, then get over it.
“It’s complicated” could also mean that you have been with someone for a very long time and you start to realize that this person may not be the one you are destined to live your life with but your still holding on to the what-if.
“It’s Complicated” is code for “I got a man/woman, but I’m down for whateva.” If you are looking for a share – then make a move. If you are looking for a solo – head elsewhere.
You are so right about that complicated thing, I use that because I am not 100% that the relationship is where I want to be yet, but it’s complicated for me, not for him. He wants me, and we are in a for real relationship until then….