It’s All In Your Head
I just watched P.S. I Love You, the movie with Hillary Swank and Gerard Butler.
I cried throughout the whole movie. Despite the pile of wadded tissues I built up, the movie was very good! I recommend watching it if you haven’t already. The opening scene consists of a big fight between Butler (who plays Gerry) and Swank (who plays Holly), who are a married couple. I thought the scene was hilarious in its realistic portrayal of couples arguing.
Swank plays a woman who likes to plan everything out and have things organized the way she likes. Butler plays an easy-going Irish hunk who just loves to crack jokes and play his wife songs on his guitar. When they fight, it builds up into more than what their initial argument was about. They start to pull in past arguments and pick at all these little things. My favorite lines go something like this-
Swank: “Do you want to leave? Then leave!”
Butler: “NO I don’t want to leave. Do YOU want me to leave?”
Swank: “No, but if you want to leave then leave. You know you already want to leave.”
Butler: “Well if you want me to leave then I’m leaving.”
Swank: “FINE leave.”
Catch the miscommunication there? I laughed out loud because I can think of many people (including me) who do this when they fight. You create huge arguments in your head, when the actual argument at hand isn’t really that bad. The best thing to do in a fight is to stay calm and rational. It’s so easy to pick on someone when you’re really mad. I’ll bring up little things that didn’t even bother me before. All of a sudden they become daggers I toss around in my argument. The truth is that little things aren’t really weapons in a fight. They just make things worse.
So, stay rational even when all you want to do is throw something at your man’s face. Remember what’s in your head and what’s actually the issue at hand.
Mila is in her twenties and lives and works in New York City. She loves writing, running, and good music. If there’s a dance party, she’s there.