….if the shoe fits…
Here’s what Kanye West told People magazine some months back about his search for a wife:
“I want to have kids, but I want to have the right girl too – someone who really cares about me….When I’m in a club, girls are super-calculating, planning every step,” he says.
So, my question is does he want a bodyguard, a therapist or a wife? It sounds like he wants someone who can care about him, but what can he offer but a cash allowance?
“It’s lonely at the top. Losing my mom, having no woman in my life to support me – I feel like I’m on my own and can only express it through my music.”
Kanye, there are many folks like you out there. Those who want to get, get, get. Unfortunately, this is something found in many alpha males. The desire to get before they give, if they can give. But there’s just something scarier about a someone who has so many needs and demands, and nothing to give but more expectations and demands. It’s tiresome. The best bet is a man/woman who is a self contained individual, who can also be vulnerable. A self contained person has an understanding and hold on their own emotions without relying on others to interpret their feelings, or relying on others to make them feel better. They don’t expect you to make them happy, they come to the table asking you to join their party. That’s an ideal alpha male, who’s also not needy, but emotionally available. It’s really not that hard. Kanye doesn’t sound like he’s boyfriend material, never mind a husband, according to “alpha” female standards. By all other standards, he is an alpha male (one of the few in hip hop) who needs emotional rehab.