Comments on: Weekend Rewind: How To “Vet” A Man

By: Salena

Salena — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 01:50:26 +0000

correction, * I don’t mean sleeping with him on the first date, but i don’t mean three months either .

By: Salena

Salena — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 01:48:26 +0000

Personally, I think having sex early is vetting as well. If you have sex early and he disappears or starts to act up, then you save yourself a whole lot of time and energy. Now I don’t mean the first month, but i dont mean wait three months either.

Men like the thril of the chase and so many of them will stick around, just to feel like they could win or get that ass.

In the end, you have to use your instincts and just go with the flow.

By: Zabeth

Zabeth — Mon, 06 Apr 2009 16:38:07 +0000

I’d also like to add that a woman shouldn’t have sex with a man in an attempt to keep him or to keep him interested. This doesn’t work, nor will it lead to a fulfilling relationship.

By: Brian

Brian — Fri, 03 Apr 2009 13:19:21 +0000

Remember that men are vetting too. Sure – he’ll wait if he is way into you – ie really attractive, but if you make a man wait too long, he’ll find someone else to fulfill that need.

Also, if you are going to make him wait – make sure you are offering something worth waiting for. If I have to “get to know you” for 3 months and then find out that you are a nun in bed – well, I’m going to be pissed.

Here’s the question you should ask – a man’s (or woman’s) answer to this question will let you know where you stand and where this relationship is going:

“What do you believe in?”

If the terms “marriage”, “love”, or “family” don’t come up – run!

By: Chas

Chas — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 18:13:27 +0000

That vetting business is fine, just let the fella know that you ARE interested.

ie: Don’t be stand-offish and unaffectionate.

By: Maryann

Maryann — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 17:37:29 +0000

@lea good advice!

“Vetting” should happen early, not 6 months later and after the fact….

By: lea bea

lea bea — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 17:18:56 +0000

great article, this is the problem now a days with most young women, i know girls that slept with a man as soon as they met a man they were interested in and thought their sex was thee best and that wouldn’t make him stray or leave, but when they end up alone they wonder where did they go wrong, if you can’t have a stimulating conversation with a man and get to know him better, sex isn’t a good thing because that’ll be the only thing you’ll have in common. So i say wait to feel that person out, deepen the feelings and communicate. This person might be your future husband. Much love

By: DEJAVOU

DEJAVOU — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 16:09:54 +0000

This is interesting and I know there are ALWAYS exceptions. My case was that I had sex with my current man during the first 4 weeks, we are still together, been a few years now. Having sex that early showed me whether he was real or not. What if I had waited 3 months? With him, he would have waited, but not sure if sex should be the barometer.