I read about this on Blogxilla, a very intriguing post from a man’s perspective that got me to thinking. Women think they know how to talk to a man because they talk to him like they do their friends–girlfriends. Definitely a no no. Here’s what the blog said, a few of its rules:
- We don’t need to know every single detail of what went on. Time is money, so If you got into an argument with office tramp, I don’t need to know what she had on…Start w/ the conclusion and then I’ll be more likely to want to listen to the other details.
The truth. How many times do you want to tell him everything so he “understands”? Waste of breathe. Here’s something else:
- If you want us to remember something… You might have to remind us, or get us to repeat it back to you or something….If you want us to remember it let us know before you say it… Xilla this is the important part, as soon as you do that my mind recorder presses play.
I take this to mean that it’s okay to teach a man subliminally. Meaning, suggest to him what is important either through telling him, or using various voice ranges. I feel so sorry for those girls with the little tweety bird or monotoned voices because they get tuned out after the first sentence. Also, leave the business, nasal voice at the office.
Personally, I like silence in my relationships. I don’t like too much yipping and yapping. Nights in front of the tube politicking over the latest current events is cool and all, hours on the phone when we start dating, ok. But, once we settle in together, I like that comfortable silence. That silence that used to make you feel something is wrong because “he’s soooo quiet”. Ain’t nothing wrong. Nothing worse for me than a loud mouth flap rapper. I’m getting a headache with the visual.
Finally, keep your words succinct, sweet and provide only vital information. Don’t read between the lines of what he is saying or not saying. You can learn more from a person by what they don’t say. Believe that. If you’re a crafty alpha female, you’ll use moments of silence and suspense wisely, and to your advantage.
DISCLAIMER–You are still responsible to talking to your man in a way that’s best for you two, this is just general means, that is why it is called talk to A man…period.