One thing I never lacked was a man of substance, value, and influence. Timing or character wasn’t always on point, but that can be addressed in another blog. A man should enhance a woman’s world, not simply detract from it or keep it the same. Not simply impregnate her and give her womb a work out, but provide a lifestyle that they both nurture and grow together. Too many times, you find yourself dating civilians, ordinary men who want nothing more than life but a pat on the back from the boss every now and then and a steady paycheck. That’s fine and well, if that’s what they want. But if you need more, you need more, period. Ambition and power is something few men can attest to. They want to be ambitious, but don’t know how. They don’t know what opportunities to exploit or explore. They want power, but don’t have access. In turn, they abuse others, or themselves to feel powerful.
A “trophy” man is not arm candy to a more successful woman akin to what a trophy wife would be to a successful man. A trophy man is a man who is used to being celebrated and rewarded because he’s already successful. To get a trophy man of prestige and status, it’s important to start with your social circle. Expand and maximize it. It should reflect people that have already achieved the lifestyle you desire, not folks on their way like you are. If you associate with the right people in the right social circle, you will be taken care of. Always keep a level-head. If you want The Real Housewives of Atlanta you’ll see how disconnected or shallow this crowd may seem. It’s only a defense mechanism. People normally want to protect what they believe is limited. With that said, make sure you associate with people who embrace you, want to show you the ropes, who want to let you in.
Next, a woman’s desire is powerful. If you have a desire to marry wealthy then it can happen. Trust me, not too many women are even thinking this because it is far out of their reach, or at least they think it is. Or they convinced themselves that it’s shallow and mean to just want a man for what he can provide. Remember, those are defense mechanisms for fear. If you want a man of wealth, you must be confident and you must be free of the opinions of others. Focus solely on your desire, and the things that make you feel rich. Fake it till you make it works. Just ask at least half of the millionaires and successful role models of the world. Whether it’s with the new social circle, a gala party invite, or a lovely Chanel scarf. Whatever it is that makes you feel rich, embrace it.
Finally, to get a trophy husband or man of wealth, you must know where to go. You can start by finding out the 101 Hottest Places To Meet A Millionaire. With the proper mindset and tools, you can marry well off in no time. Just keep your head up.