How To Be An Alpha Female: The Rise

Then one morning you wake up.  You decide that there is more to life than what appears.

That, like an alpha female, you are completely control of your destiny.  If you can’t see it, then you might as well create it.  You create your own possibilities via networks and powerful connections.  Oh, no.  You didn’t have these to start with.  But you find them via mentors, private clubs, or serendipity.  It does happen.  Did you know there are people who will mentor you for free?  Wealthy people.  Of course you do.  Now, you are doing something about it.  You are learning the ropes of what it means to be truly wealthy in America.  Wealth in money, but access, too.  It is not a far off dream, an after retirement goal or a second life promise.  You want it now.  You don’t want to sell your soul.  But an alpha female takes risks.

You call people you never thought you would.  You leave random messages on CEO voicemail boxes at night with your ideas and requests for a meeting.  Nobody does that.  Understand that if you do, they will take it seriously.  Expect the call back.  It is a ridiculously wild feeling that makes you feel alive and unstoppable.  You go to lunches and meetings where you are the only stranger.  You walk in buildings like you collect the rent.  People notice you.  They ask questions.  You take the next steps.  You make and break alliances.  You take down the old and build the new.

You may find that in this process you become another self.  A self that is more self assured, less caring, and more daring.  Instead of protecting others, you learn to protect yourself.  You may also find that you have a new “thing” about you.  No longer are others able to approach you in any old way or tell you any old bull.  You will radiate a shield of protection that is a reflection of your inner growth.

It sounds like a lot.  But it is really not that hard.  The only person that can get in the way is you.  You are fighting for your life. Excuse me, the life.

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  1. Stephanie says:

    This right here is everything….describes the change that HAS to occur for you to move from one level to the next.

  2. EbonyLolita says:

    Yes I’m starting to experience this feeling NOW!!! It’s a bit overwhelming at first but I use it to push myself forward. At times feeling uncomfortable in order to challenge myself. Complacency means it’s time to look for new opportunities & when you can’t find em, CREATE EM!!! Good post MaryAnn 🙂

  3. Maryann says:

    I’m definitely thinking of creating an Alphanista Mastermind Group. It is great to see so much motivation. Sometimes we all need to be reminded to take risks and that greatness does not need to take forever. I know when I am playing it too safe. I don’t want to play it safe anymore! I hope to have big news for all of you soon!

  4. I am undergoing my “reinvention” as we speak and am certainly on the rise. Taking more risks than ever before and reaping great rewards. I am in this stage currently: “You create your own possibilities via networks and powerful connections.”

    That saying, “its who you know” especially for some industries is so true and its a strategic move for me based entirely on my goals. You def. have to have a vision for your life overall to be an Alphanista woman!

  5. lisa says:

    This! Yes, elevation. Thanks for the great read. This is like a blueprint of “becoming”, or better yet, transcending into being an Alphanista. While I wholeheartedly understand that such cannot be taught, I definitely appreciate the reiteration.

  6. Maryann says:

    Definitely ladies, I mean when I watch those bio sows everyone is fighting for their life. They believe in their greatness and when they fall, they fall hard. But it only takes one right action to rise, and rise quickly that surprises everyone.

  7. hiphopmuse says:

    This post is very inspirational – it reminded me that aking those big risks lead to big rewards. The dream isn’t really that far off if you’re willing to take chances.

  8. Zabeth says:

    “You call people you never thought you would. You leave random messages on CEO voicemail boxes at night with your ideas and requests for a meeting.”

    I’ve done this, career wise. Not always calling but emailing or writing to executives directly. It does work. May start to apply it in other areas of my life.

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