It’s been a long time, but here’s another one. Both sides of the story because there always is! This is an unusual case because they two still live together, but may not after this. So, who won this one? I think someone is afraid to sip the kool-aid…You decide!
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Doreen, 37, nurse
Trey and I have been together for 11 years and have 2 boys.
We are both in our late thirties. When we met it was instantaneous. We moved in together after a week! Yup, my lease was ending that week we met and he was like “F it move in with me”. He had a nice crib (which we still live in this day). So I was immediately inaugurated into wifey duties from day one. I got pregnant after the third month. As soon as I got pregnant he told me getting married was the next thing. We had agreed that we would go to the City Hall and make it happen before our son came. Nothing happened. I was always sick with the baby and he had started a new job and couldn’t get the time off. Fast forward 10 more years, another son, and no ring. I got a “promise” ring. Yeah, okay. Anyway, when Vday passed and he worked that night, I was furious. Both our families were humming that it is time to make it happen. I am so fed up. As I write this I need to know if he is ever going to marry me and why not. Believe me I can deal with the answer. I just need to know.
Trey, 37, Firefighter
I love Doreen so lemme get that out of the way.
But just because I love the girl don’t mean I have to marry her. I did make a few promises but that was because she forced me. I never wanted to be married. My parents ain’t married after 30 years her mother and father same thing. Doreen just got too many female knuckleheads putting crap in her head. She sees them getting married talking about dresses and what not and she wanna floss too. She just wants to show off with the little we got. She’s embarrassed. But what’s that go to do with me? She agreed to move in with me, she’s stayed and she will stay. Maybe if she had told me earlier about waiting on the kids to get married maybe I would’ve thought about it. We’re never getting married. Is that what she wanted to hear? Because I told her that a million times!