Weekend Rewind: Have Eggs, Want Babies?
This one is a gem! One of my favorites….Enjoy!
In the post yesterday about Married Women Are Evil, someone said that husbands and marriage will be here till the end of time.
I agree. They will.
But your eggs won’t be.
Recently, I had been thinking what if women let their eggs do the dating for them. Follow me. You spend so much time picking, waiting, thinking, ignoring, resigning the need to be in a relationship or have a family that you look around and you’re 40plus. No children—yet. Unless you have Madonna money, fertility treatments are expensive. And when you just wanted one baby, you can end up with a boatload all at once.
This is to say: Think about your eggs. They do have a time limit. I’m not into putting the scare in anyone, but that is reality. It is biology, nature. [Stop reading here if you don’t want kids].
If you want kids, your eggs are probably wondering “WTF is going on out there?” Over 35, and still nada. Could be younger, if you want it sooner. An alpha female is not going to let her desire for a family fall to the wayside if she really wants it. She’ll find a way and organize her thoughts that. Get it done. Then, have something else to conquer.
Start planning now if you want a family. Don’t just date, mate. When your eggs are talking you can spot a man who can make “good babies” about 5 blocks away. Remember, you are the gatekeeper of your family’s “genetic integrity”. Use this innate instinct to choose prospective partners. Guard your body and mind. Do his teeth look clean? Is his hair neat? Is he tall? Does he white, protein filled nails? Are his eyes clear and bright? Is his skin a healthy, uniform color with limited blemishes? If he passes all this, then you can start the psychological process. Keep the timeline. 6 months to commitment.
As an alternative, if you are still single, freezing your eggs are an option until you are ready to use them. Of course, donating your eggs to give to another woman can work, too. At least you’ll have something out there. Next, look at the women in your family. If they are having babies up until their 40s, then you should be good. Because all of that is hereditary if you are a generally healthy woman. So, let’s not get caught up in the media world and fantasy that we don’t have this “egg” issue at hand. It’s frustrating, but it doesn’t have to be when you control your destiny.
And I don’t believe that God didn’t make certain women to be mothers, or even a wife. That’s one of those “advertised” excuses. If you have a desire, then it’s there for a reason and an inclination that it can be yours based on choices you make along the way. Too many women, don’t want the responsibility, so they blame a higher power. The few women who have told me they don’t want kids, I believed. They insisted they had absolutely no urge. They liked children, but really couldn’t be bothered with the whole birth and rearing thing. I respect that.
So, if you want a family, be honest with yourself. Get your house in order. Your little nieces ain’t gonna do because they will always love their mommy more.