Alphanista Read: French Women Don’t Sleep Alone?

Recently, I stumbled across a little book called French Women Don’t Sleep Alone.

Since my trip to Paris in ’08, I’m convinced that almost every woman but American women know how to get and keep a man.   I learned one thing: they remain mysterious.  And another: seductive.  The techniques in this book are some that an Alphanista can use to freshen up her dating style. But wait, French women don’t date.  The author Jamie Cat Callan starts off by saying that American women have pushed themselves to “dating fatigue syndrome”.  That they see love as a job, as a thing they can get if they join the right dating service, wait long enough or go to the right party.

So, true.  It’s a perpetual cycle of underwhelming blandness.  As Dwight would say, d-r-e-a-d-f-u-l.

Callan suggests (and I love love love this idea) that American women should throw dinner parties to make introductions.  Carla Bruni, the wife of French President Sarkozy, met him at a dinner party.  Get my drift?  Good.  See, how these dinner parties work is, you invite a few folks you know, have them invite another folk or two, make sure opposite sex folks are mixed in, pick up or make some dinner, or have a potluck, and have the gang over.   That is how many social circles work in the highest economic brackets.  No one is necessarily going to the club or party to meet, but are being introduced in more intimate settings.  Well, let’s face it.  You meet Boy X at a club, then Boy X meets another girl at a dinner party thrown by a good friend.  The second girl will already have an edge.  I hope you can see why.

French Women Don’t Sleep Alone is filled with sexy advice, too.  Callan says, “be discreet, but seductive”, be unpredictable, maybe even a bit complicated.  She blames the 70s fem movement for making women deny their whimsical and double minded ways.  She says that mood swings are good, and French women see it as “great barometers of our mind, body and heart.”  She has a great section called “Be The Mistress In Your Marriage” towards the end.  It sums up the tone of the book.  At the end of the chapters, there is a “French Lesson” an act you can do on your own to change your dating fate.  Best thing is, this is not just a dating book, but life lessons can be gleaned from it too.

Also, ladies, keep a secret or two.  It’s so French.

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