Everybody Wants To Be Me, But…


By Guest Blogger Te-Erika Patterson

Although I am an Alpha female and future superstar on the rise, that doesn’t mean that I don’t experience many lonesome nights.

Because I’m often the leader of the pack and very much focused on my goals and dreams so many people come to me for advice, encouragement and approval yet, there’s no one for me to turn to.

While my friends are preoccupied with boyfriends, jobs and finding themselves I’m usually planning my next innovative project and reaching out to other women who have accomplished the dreams that I have. It brings me extreme pleasure when I make a good connection yet, I yearn for someone to share my journey with.

I’m not just talking about having a boyfriend; there are plenty of men who can fulfill my sexual and companionship needs. What I’m looking for is someone who truly understands what it’s like to be surrounded by people who all want what you have- that brilliance, that confidence, that inner light that beckons people from near and far.

Every successful person knows that in order to be a true leader, you must first be a true servant. I spend my days and some nights counseling others, encouraging them and helping them to recognize their inner power. By the time I’m done with my daily inspirational duties, I’m exhausted and left feeling empty. No one knows this of course. Perhaps no one even cares. They come to receive direction and I give without hesitation yet I would love to see the day when I can kick back and receive the same type of inspiration and positive energy that I give.

I can’t walk away from who I am and what I give as a leader because being who I am truly brings me joy. It’s just…As I participate in the creation of other people’s prosperity while I’m on my own grind to achieve dreams that are more grandiose than average, I do wish to someday take a break and allow someone else to take the reins for a little while.

I imagine the day when I will only be Alpha when I want to be. But that day will only come when I’ve linked up with someone that I can trust to lead me where I’m already going. You know, someone who has already been there and understands the importance of allowing me the time and space to rest so that I can be refreshed and give even more.

Until then…of course I’ll help you. How may I serve you today?


  1. Nadia says:

    Absolutely 100% How i feel too. Alpha’s never have days off and we desire a man who can lead us and we can relax and be protected by his company.

  2. Kris says:

    I think the whole key is to be happy with yourself in all aspects. If that companion comes along and you are happy, then they tend to want to know more and stay around. It’s very difficult because no matter what situation a problem, dillema, issue, or whatever you prefer to call it is still the same. One may be a magnitude higher, but at the end of the day we are all human beings.

    I think that if you keep that positive vibe, then you will eventually meet your mate or a friend that would love to share your world.

  3. Gladys says:

    Finding the balance between serving other, reaching goals and taking time for yourself is a tough skill to learn. Sometimes you have set your goals and your standards and it is so hard fo find someone who will understand what you are trying to accomplish. I wish you luck and when you find that balance and meet that special person. Please do share!!!

  4. Cruz says:

    *sigh*, the gift and the curse, I totally get what you’re saying. I love being the Alpha but unfortunately Alphas get no time off from the job. I often sit around trying to figure out what that thing is that draws men, women, cats, dogs, ferrets and anything else imaginable to me til one day I just gave up trying to figure it out. It’s just me, who I am, what I am, what I stand for, it’s all of that and you are born with ‘it”. The biggest struggle for me is remembering to use my gift for good because it is soooo easy for Alphas to use their gifts for evil.

  5. Maryann says:

    I learned to just ask for help it is still very hard and most folk will not because they are insecure about their ideas and suggestions. I for one love helping others and more attracted to the person than the idea.

    I have left blood sucking people. Some even read this blog. Thank you!

  6. Nikki says:

    OMG This is so true! I am tired of these fake *ss *itches who think because I look good that everything is fine with me an dont bother asking. People are so selfish. Having your own groupies is a problem. When u need that person who can help you, they are not around. Always trying to feed off you! No more in 09.

  7. James says:

    I dated a few females like this and they hardly have any friends. Now I understand why. They make great girlfriends though for obvious reasons.

  8. Dawn says:

    i guess it can be a curse and a blessing to be so smart, i say its a blessing because life will throw u challenges and i would rather be the challenger than the challenged! we definitely have to create boundaries, tho.

  9. Maryann says:

    Many women can relate to this, but particularly Alphas. It got to a point where I had to say no I can’t help. What I learned is I had to ask for help. Many times people thought I didnt need it. So now I ask. Does it work? Sometimes, with those who really care. Others are too concerned about their ego and think, “Well, I can help but she may not like my idea or it may not be enough.” Me, I don’t even know exactly how I can help, but I’m attracted more to the person than to the idea or request they may have.

    With women like us, its like we have to be twice as transparent as the next female so people can feel a part of what we do and not on the outside.

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