So, I asked this question on Twitter the other day. With the world full of single women, and unhappy married men, can things get complicated? I was surprised by the responses. It’s safe to say that most people say NO.
An alpha would never consider sharing her husband’s time, without giving them all a pass, as most husbands would expect the same from their wife. At least very traditional marriages. As someone once said, a husband’s/wife”s covenant with each other is stronger than the one he/she has with friends. It should be.
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straf @MaryannReid that is completely inappropriate…(from a man)
EstilominaPR@MaryannReid is it better that he talk to them outside the house lol? Come on
Jubilance1922@MaryannReid yes, if the female friend is friends with the wife too, & she should call @ a respectable time
KamrynAdams @MaryannReid Not at all. I’d be leary of a woman friend that did NOT call my house. My demand is: They call here or not at all.
lanorise@MaryannReid : respect should be given and not call his house neither should he call hers! (from a man)
Te_Erika@MaryannReid @Te_Erika hell yeah! As long as they respect the game. Wont force a man 2 choose.
I feel that’s it’s not cool 4 a married man or women 2 have the opposite sex friends unless each other’s spouse’s know about it! Even than I think bountries should be set… no secrets, lying, total honestly n communication 4 sure!
No, not at all!!!
I think it depends on the situation. I’m married & my wife isn’t the jealous type, but she’s called women out with total precision & I always listen (because she’s gone through this in a previous marriage). For example, she called one girl out so cream puff sweet & was totally accurate. When the girl found out that I wasn’t going to leave my wife for her, she quit calling. Another instance was at a class reunion where one of my classmates starting telling her about an incident that happened in Jr. High & my wife was like ” I hope that she didn’t think I would leave you over what happened in Jr. High.” My wife talks to some of my friends that are girls & correspond with them in most cases more than I do, but you have to watch. Sometimes women (& men) will throw little things out there to stretch boundaries & to see if you’re happy at home, so that they can fill in the blanks, so to speak. It’s not necessary to share every nook & cranny when you receive a pass, but it is appropriate to shut it down on impact.
So, I am married. I have a thinking mind that has always liked perspectives from females.
Plural. Why? Because multiple perspectives enrich the experience of life. I am not seeking to bang someone.
According to the masses, one of which is my wife, I am not permitted to have any female friends.
Truly sad, for everyone involved.
Boundaries are a must. Always.
True…
But if the dude wants to keep his wife from cutting his head off, he’d better set some boundaries and keep it moving. And as a whole, I find that most women are good at respecting boundaries once they are put into place.
Oftentimes those types of online friends turn into real life friends.
@THC, I think that’s the best advice.
Married men should only have female acquaintances on Social networking sites like Facebook, twitter and Myspace. Not in real life.
WHAT! Is it even a consideration? All my female friends WERE HOT. My wife and I agreed it’s best that we don’t indulge our friends after we got married. I still may get emails that say hello or a random call but it’s short, my wife gets the same. We have discussed changing our numbers and making NEW friends together.