Have dog, no man.
Last week, a male friend told me he would never date a girl with a pet. He said it showed him that she resigned her life to being single and that she gave little thought to how a pet would affect a new relationship. This is true. Pets have needs. Many men do not like the dog being fed before them. They also don’t like stepping over a dog, kicking the dog out of the way, or walking your little Shitzu, especially if he’s straight.
This all came up because I was thinking of getting a pup. All my female brethren are up for it. But the men, not so much. They think it will make it just harder to meet someone. It’s pretty much like Charlotte not wanting to a buy an apartment for fear that it’ll look like she gave up on marriage. She stayed renting. Can’t we just wait to experience some things with a partner? Why do we have it do it ALL now? Is this just a Black thing?
So, I haven’t gotten one yet. I’m okay with that, too. I still like to feel that perhaps my dude may be the one to buy me the dog. It would be another way to bond. I don’t think I’d even have time for a dog when with someone. And crawling in the bed, or having to get up to walk, when my man wants to play footsie. No.
For now, have man, no dog.
I have a Boston Terrier and I am getting another one in a few weeks. So yes, I am a single black professional woman with no man and I will have two dogs. I don’t treat my dog like a child it is a dog, but I have got to say I would rather come home to my dog than to an empty house. I could wait around for that man and miss out on the love that my dog gives me ( maybe because I feed her). But, I just turned 40 and I was dogless for years… still no man in my life. I did get a little grief when I announced to my family and friends that I was getting a second dog. One that could keep my first dog company and give me an extra dose of love. So it will be me and my two “bitches”. Ha. Anyway, guys that like dogs are pretty awesome. They are not selfish, hypochondriacs who can’t make commitments. I don’t know but I will have Bostons Bull Terriers which are not girly dogs that no manly man would be embarrassed to walk down the street. Ha. Stay away from Yorkies, Chihuahuas, and any yappy dog less than 15 pounds. And no my dogs will never sleep with me or kiss me in the mouth. The same guy who would date a woman withOUT a dog over one with a dog also might feel that kids are a dealbreaker too. Less hassle and more convenience. Basically, get the dog if you want one but remember it is a long term relationship. You can’t give it up if you start dating. Good luck!!!
As a man, if i had a choice between a woman with a pet and one without a pet, i’d go with the one without a pet. Less hassle and more convenience.
I AGREE. I JUST WANT TO WAIT AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS. IM OKAY WITH THAT.
I have a little Yorkee, and my man has dogs, we met in the park, with our dogs.
Girl, you gonna get it when I see you!