This is not a negative post about Phaedra (Real Housewives of Atlanta cast member), you can read the other blogs for that. On this blog, we do look at the flip side, the side less visited, the side probably very little agree with.
It’s easy to write how fake she looks or her convict husband this or that. Let’s look at the positive side. For one, she is educated and values her education. She looked around at her life and took inventory. Instead of the prolonged pity party, focusing on what her girl friends may think, she made changes. She saw that she didn’t have a child, she wanted one, but she didn’t want to be alone. She saw that she didn’t have a husband, she wanted one, because she wanted one. She saw that her life may have been full with what she had going on on the outside, but little on the inside. She wanted to paint the perfect life.
She took stock of what she can work with and created her world. It’s not a heroic act, it’s real life. It’s obvious her and hubby know little about each other, but so do the thousands of arranged marriages in the world, which studies show are equal or more successful than American “romantic” marriages. It’s obvious that he’s not all that into it for now, and maybe she isn’t either. They are both playing some part in each other lives to fulfill some need. Oftentimes, loves grows from there,.
The baby she is carrying was made quickly, so to speak. It all seems to be working out to Phaedra’s plan. Of course, we’d like to see the fairytale for everyone, but if you look closely there is a bit of Phaedra in a lot of women. Whether it is about a man, a car, a job, or a pair of shoes. There is something, that feels like if you had it life would be better. But have you ever thought about that maybe you did not become the person you thought you’d become, is the reason why you don’t have the life you thought you should?
Now, the trick is to finally realize that it is not about that, but about you. Because when you do create your world, and you are not the person who is supposed to be in that world, may God have mercy on you.
More on this later this week.