Comments on: Alphanista Career Q & A: Crazy Boss!

By: Wendy Coakley-Thompson

Wendy Coakley-Thompson — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 04:24:10 +0000

These are all helpful suggestions, y’all. Dag, some bosses are just plain nuts! This babe in the piece is a lawsuit just waiting to happen…

By: EbonyLolita

EbonyLolita — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 00:54:09 +0000

Option #4 you Block your boss totally. She won’t be able to find you on FaceBook, not a pic/name/nada. I’ve done that in advance to my boss and several other people. It works, but the trick is you can’t check on their pages either. *if your nosy like that~~~ shrugs* Good luck w/ that b/c if she’s seen your pic w/your name she’s got you pegged. But, I wouldn’t mention it to her and if she did mention it I’d tell her that I’m not on FaceBook.
Good luck,
Love EbonyLolita

By: Missingpieces

Missingpieces — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 17:23:37 +0000

Woah, this post is serious! Is it me or does this woman’s boss have some Lesbionic tendencies? I mean, her boss feeling her hair is unwarranted and disrespectful IMO. If there is one thing I can’t stand is being treated like a ” pet negro.” If you have an Afro or wear your hair in a natural style- watch out! White people, ESPECIALLY WHITE WOMEN, are raising their hands out to pat you on your damned head like you are there favorite golden retriever. UGGGHHH! Besides, if it were a man exhibiting this type of behavior- would we even be having this conversation right now? Can we say Discrimination and Sexual Harassment?
This woman is being singled out from her boss for being a black female who is probably also more attractive than she is, which is why I think part of her reasoning for putting a friend request on FB. This “crazy ass,” is not only interested in getting in her life but also getting in between her thighs! Get me?

IDK, my suggestion is for a sista is to watch her back, maybe, just maybe, asks the HR department about proper code of conduct between employer and employee in the office, and take it from there. That’s if there is an HR dept. – you never know these days with these smaller companies.

Now, as far as the FB situation goes, I’ll take Door Number 3! I’d let that pic of that crazy b**** sit there in my FB friend requests and if shit really get’s out of control, just consistently build a case against crazy ass. Like writing down date and times of what she did to make you uncomfortable; including touching your damned hair!

BTW: Would tape recording the private conversations she has with her boss be illegal? Just wondering, LOL! Greasy times call for Greasy measures.

By: Lark

Lark — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 16:50:42 +0000

As usual, here’s my two cents….

This can be tricky. Especially when sometimes you don’t want bosses or co-workers you work with to see what times you update your status… i.e. in meetings with the boss, excessive times in a day, etc….

I would accept my boss (if I had one) to my second Facebook account. Yep, I said second account. For my second account – I post development messages and tips (that’s my primary field) as well as helping people network i.e. suggesting friends based on mutual interest. Plus I get to great the illusion that everything I do is effortless.

By: The Hooker Chronicles

The Hooker Chronicles — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 16:22:31 +0000

@Lex

Excellent Idea!

By: Lex

Lex — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 16:03:34 +0000

There is also a fourth option. Accept friend request but with more strict privacy settings. My cousin is a teacher and this is what she does. That way you can choose what she does and doesn’t see (ie, pictures of you out with your friends ect..) This way you can avoid all the unpleasantness of not accepting but still regain control.

Best of luck!

By: Maryann

Maryann — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 15:53:26 +0000

looks out for my blog on manipulation coming soon, good points THC

By: The Hooker Chronicles

The Hooker Chronicles — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 15:41:43 +0000

Ummm, this is a tricky one but I’ll touch on it

As Al Pacino said in the Godfather, “Keep your friends close and keep your enemies closer”!

I would probably accept her friend request and keep things light and civil with this woman. Maybe post a small “hello” on her wall and keep it moving. If you deny her friend request, she might see that as a diss and start fucking with you on the job (woman take everything personal).

Your job as an Alphanista is to avoid drama at all cost, and to manipulate those higher than you into believing your a good guy.

By: Maryann

Maryann — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 15:21:55 +0000

@ThatGirl LOL I think LinkedIn would be more appropriate for bosses on a GENERAL scale, but not even with this situation…@Wendy, this is solid advice! LOL @Now I have to see her hideous mug on Facebook.

By: ThatGirlDer

ThatGirlDer — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 15:15:33 +0000

HAHA! Not if my boss looked like that! This was very good advice by the way. I definitely would NEVER accept anyone from work.