Comments on: ADVICE: Sleeping With His Friend

By: Pampermimi

Pampermimi — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 18:29:25 +0000

This is very taboo topic… I have a friend that has done the something in our group; we have all been friends for nearly 20 years. Not once but twice this has occurred and it has caused major problems but has been overlooked. I would never cross the “friend” line but, what’s good for me may not be good for everyone else. I respect her decision but, do understand your character is on the line not only with the women but also, with the men. If you are happy at the end of the day that’s all that matters.

By: tender

tender — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 18:13:49 +0000

Your happy, right? Then who the hell cares? Besides the obvious, of course. You’re right, though. You’re all adults, therefore this topic should have blown over by now.

Here’s what I think about your friend. I know this is cliche, but there is a slight jealous streak. I mean, here she is doing things the “Right” way, and STILL no happy ending. But here you are acting like a slut (in her words) and yet YOUR the one w/ the “Prince Charming” in your bed every night. I know you never said anything about her relationship status, but it quite obvious what it is. Remember- if THEIR not happy, their not REALLY happy for you. Tell the ones to that have a problem w/ you relationship to create their OWN “Happy Formula” and mind their own damn business!

By: hiphopmuse

hiphopmuse — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 18:05:18 +0000

I agree with BB & Ms. Tee. To elaborate on their points, it doesn’t matter how this group of people feel about your relationship. They’re not in it, they’re observers from the sidelines. If you want to date this new guy, do it. All that matters is how you and him feel about things, not his friend, your friend, or anyone else. The outside parties to the relationship need to worry about their own lives. I would also refrain from confiding in the BFF about this relationship, I get these sense that she’s not happy for your happiness.

If things don’t work out with the current guy, look outside the immediate pool for dating prospects. If you date a 3rd guy in that pool, you would definitely be seen as a slut. But for this one, I say you get a pass.

By: Ms. Tee

Ms. Tee — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 16:55:12 +0000

LOL!!!! and you know what I say…..FUCK WHAT THEY THINK! They’re all upset…not becuz you’re wrong..but becuz they don’t have the guts to do it!

They hate u cuz they aint u….

By: BB

BB — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 16:03:42 +0000

Who cares if you are wrong? It is your life! Sometimes you have to be wrong to win. Just make sure that you actually do win!

Does he “want a relationship with you… someday…?” Or, are you in an official commited relationship right now? This can make all the difference in the world. If the new guy is the real deal then who cares about your salty friends. But, if you are just hanging out (and men do lie about their intentions sometimes), then your reputation is definitely taking a hit. Do you care? If not, then carry on.

Anyway, how important is this group? Does it add value to your life? Sometimes people let the opinions of people/groups who don’t matter and can’t offer them anything, dictate their behavior. Why not evaluate who contributes more to your life and make your decisions on that basis? If you have to be wrong, so be it.