Weekend Rewind: ADVICE: Sleeping With His Friend
I had a casual sex relationship with a “friend” this summer, that I cut off once summer ended. We are still good friends just without the benefits. During that time he introduced me to a lot of his friends and recently (while we are not sexing anymore) one of his friends approached me.
Before you go rolling your eyes this man wants an actual relationship, and wants to have a life together unlike my “friend”. I’ve been dating and sexing my friend’s friend and its all been DAMN good. Between that time and now my friend has had several arguments about me with my new boo and I think he has tried to drag my name down somewhat to help him save face. My honey says that he doesn’t care about what anybody else thinks or says he just wants to be with me.
Our relationship has really caused tension between all parties involved, and the group as well. Not to mention that I look like a “slut”, this according to my BFF(female) because I’ve dealt with two guys in the same group, and she feels like they’re “sharing” me. This situation has also caused a rift between her and I due to our difference in values. Trust me she’s FAR from an angel but she feels adamant about that topic being taboo.
My question is am I really wrong for this? We’re all adults here, we aren’t really hurting anyone (maybe my friend’s pride a little) and these types of things happen all the time. Why is everyone so bent out of shape, if we’re happy shouldn’t everyone else be?
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Dear Confused conscious,
I see nothing wrong here. From the responses below, others feel the same, for now. Nobody was married. Technically you are all single. Enjoy your new man. Keep your business to yourself. Stay quiet. That will really confuse folks because they will expect you to be stressed about this.
Relationships are not neat and clean. They are messy and fussy at times. As long as you don’t straight play yourself (there are a number of ways this can happen), find a new group perhaps. There are certain women who can pull this off, always the apple of male admirers, don’t be shy, enjoy the ride.
Stay in control.