Okay. This one is OPEN advice. I know exactly what I’d tell this reader, but I want to hear your opinions on this one. Today’s “Tip” was inspired by this.
I am a 36 year old female living in the Bronx.
No kids. I have been single for the last seven years, and hadn’t until like recently sexed a man since 2005. Yes, that is long! I was so blessed (with your 9 Tuesdays help) when a man walked into my life this year. I mean, literally just walked in. He is not nothing like I had thought he would have been. He is just good to me, treats me like gold, and sexes me like crazy. But he lives in another state. Like far away, can anyone say Texas? Yes, Texas. We spent the summer with each other going back and forth and this man has got it together! As for me, I am unemployed and facing eviction. I am a well known actress too, at least in commercials, and this is very hard for me to be in. I got laid off a job, and I have only a few cents left to my name. I got mostly broke because of a charity I did to help people, and I got the short end of the stick. Got stuck with the bills. When I visited this man in TX, his home is lovely. He is stable. He has kids from a marriage but they do not live with him. When I was town this summer, he introduced me to his parents. Things are serious. Moving kinda fast, but I don’t see how we could slow it down as if the distance is not enough of a damper.
Anyway, he told me if I needed a place to go if I am evicted, I can move in with him, take a breather, and look for work. We even discussed moving someplace new together, but that takes time. I would have to move to TX. I hate NYC by the way. Just loathe it! I thought that this could be a fresh start for everything I ever wanted. BUT…I don’t know. I am afraid. The alternative is to move back home with my mama. But at 36, I just can’t. Maybe if I had a man in town, I can split up the time at his place. But I cannot see myself in my my mama’s basement at my age going stir crazy. Also, when my man comes in town he won’t be able to stay at my mama place incurring more debt on us to look for hotels.
I am currently looking for work, no interviews yet. Even if I went back home, found a job, I still have debt I owe and finding another apt will be hard as hell, harder than ever with the eviction on it. If I go to TX, anything is possible. I want to be married, I want a baby. I’ll be taking a big step into faith and love. Where should I go?? What do I do with my apartment? I can’t stay! Help!
Free Fallin in BX,
*names have been changed for privacy